You are listening to the Weight Loss for Successful Women podcast with Shannan Christiansen episode number 124. Welcome to Weight Loss for Successful Women, a podcast for women who are ready to break the diet cycle and end their struggle with weight for good. Here’s your host, fortune 100 executive, and certified life coach, Shannan Christiansen.

Hello love. So happy to be back with you. I’m so excited. If you could see me, I’m cheering. Today is the day, as we release this episode, we are open. Transform Boss Weight Loss is open! I can’t wait to welcome in a whole lot of ladies into Transform Boss Weight Loss. There are women today, February 9th, who are deciding they matter, and they are investing in themselves. It is so powerful to watch. Go to jointransformboss.com to find out all about it.

Now today’s show is about healing your relationship with food. I’ve been doing a lot of research on disordered eating, and I want to first before we get into the episode, explain disordered eating versus eating disorders. An eating disorder as described by Mayo is anorexia, bulimia, and also binge eating disorder. Most eating disorders involve focusing too much on your weight, body shape, and food leading to dangerous eating behaviors. These behaviors can significantly impact your body’s ability to get appropriate nutrition. This requires professional medical intervention and help from doctors and therapists. If you’re struggling with this my love, you can go to nationaleatingdisorders.org to find resources and support.

In this show I want to focus on disordered eating. There are many different characteristics of disordered eating, like frequently dieting, obsessing over body and food, disconnecting from your body’s hunger and fullness cues, and gaining and losing weight over and over again.

Disordered eating has many causes, but I want to focus on how dieting has contributed. When I was on the diet rollercoaster I was either restricting or eating all the things. I would go from eating chicken and salad to pizza, sugar cookies, all the things. I had this mentality of either being on a diet, thinking I was being good, or off a diet, thinking I was being bad.

This on or off, all or nothing thinking, it was a symptom of disordered eating. I had disconnected from my body. I was so focused that my body was not good enough, that I needed to look a certain way or be a certain weight that I was damaging my relationship with myself, my body, and my relationship with food. Even when I was at a low weight, it still was not good enough. I still needed to lose more or get surgery because of loose skin. It never mattered what my weight was. It never did. It never was good enough. When I was on the diet rollercoaster I had so many beliefs on what was healthy food and what was not. My head was full of nonsense, just built up over a lifetime.

All of these were just thoughts and beliefs I had learned over time because of our culture of dieting and obsession with thinness. I did this over my lifetime over and over again. I gained and lost hundreds of pounds, did every diet, pill, and potion, and it left me hopeless and frustrated. I decided that I needed healing. I needed to heal from the inside out.

I needed to heal my relationship with myself, my body and food. I was never going to diet again. I started with my mind because my love, it’s where it all begins. I started finding all of the negative thoughts I had about myself, the food rules, the thoughts about how my body should be. I got coached. Did hours and hours of research.

I developed the Transform Boss Weight Loss fundamentals, and process that I teach my clients today. I started by healing the relationship with myself. Having acceptance, love, forgiveness for myself. I became a watcher of my thoughts, not to judge them, but to become curious. I teach my bosses how to start healing their relationship with themselves, their bodies, and with food to heal from disordered eating. The first tool that I teach is called the realistic food plan. You can go to episode 6 and 106, but this is all about healing our relationship with food. Healing it by allowing yourself to eat all the things. Allowing yourself to watch how you think about food. And then I teach them how to start reconnecting to their bodies, how to feel hunger and fullness, how to begin to accept their bodies and show themselves love, no matter what the number on the scale says.

You can keep being at war with your body, but no one wins my love. This I know for sure. You can keep searching for the next food plan or exercise plan. They don’t work long-term. If you want to lose weight for the last time, love the body you live in, and heal the relationship with yourself, come join us in Transform Boss Weight Loss – go to jointransformboss.com. We’re open until February 15^th, then we’re going to close the doors until June.

Today’s transformational questions and actions are one, if you had to rate your relationship with food, your body, and yourself, what would you rate the relationship? Number two, why did you give yourself that rating? And number three, what would happen if you started to heal those relationships?

I will talk to you next week. Bye for now.

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