You are listening to the Weight Loss for Successful Women podcast with Shannan Christiansen episode number 127. Welcome to Weight Loss for Successful Women, a podcast for women who are ready to break the diet cycle and end their struggle with weight for good. Here’s your host, fortune 100 executive, and certified life coach, Shannan Christiansen.

Hello love. So happy to be back with you. I always wondered what showing up for myself really meant. It was hard for me to believe that I could show up for myself. I was always so busy, had so many things on my plate. But in today’s episode, I want to show you how you can do it and why it’s important.

So I am so excited today. I am just feeling all the love and gratitude. I know that our lives are 50-50, and full of all of it – the good and the bad. But on days like today, when I’m feeling all the love, I just want to soak it in. I am so grateful for my team, my family, Paul, all of my Transform Bosses. I just love this life that I’ve curated and all the amazing humans in it. I love all of it. And I love you.

I’ve been thinking a lot about what it means to show up. See, I think it’s easy to show up for other people. They have expectations of us. I mean, that is what we think and believe. Maybe it’s not true, but we think it, and we care about what they think about us. We want to please them. We want them to think amazing things about us. So we show up for them. We think about what we can do for them, how we can please them, how we can love on them. We want them to like us, to love us.

Now, why don’t we care what we think about ourselves? I just want you to think about this for a moment. Why don’t you want to please yourself? Think amazing things about yourself? Why don’t you want to have love for yourself? Why don’t you make time for you? I know it’s a little mind twisty, because we have all of these thoughts that we’re too busy, we’re just tired. Shannan, I’m plain tired, exhausted. We just cannot make time for ourselves. We can’t fit us in.

But how is that working for you? I ask because when we don’t show up for ourselves, when we don’t put ourselves on the list, we are more mentally tired and drained. We feel more feelings around resentment and discontentment with our lives. What is not showing up for yourself costing you? Because my love, there is a price. Showing up for yourself is thinking good things about yourself.

Practicing love for yourself. Wanting to fuel your body, so you have energy. Getting rest. Saying no. Drinking water. It’s caring about yourself because you matter. When you don’t show up for yourself, you teach the other humans in your life that you don’t matter. I see ladies tired, exhausted, and feeling like they’re being treated poorly. But my love, you have a part in that.

If you’re always putting yourself last, why are you surprised when others do the same? It’s important to get real with yourself about what showing up looks like. It’s not hours a day at a spa. It’s the little moments where you think about you. You plan for you. You feel proud of you. You feel some love for yourself. It’s not big sweeping things, though it could be. But it’s truly just putting yourself on the list and thinking about how you want to live for yourself in this world. How do you want to treat yourself? How do you want to impress yourself? How do you want to love yourself? It’s also keeping the commitments you make to yourself. When you break commitments to yourself, you break trust within yourself.

Then you judge yourself. Beat yourself up. When you keep commitments to yourself, you will start building trust, that trust within yourself again. See my love, you keep commitments to everyone else in your life, you have built trust with the other humans in your life. And now it’s time that you start building that trust within yourself again. Because then you become unstoppable, and you deserve this my love. Some space in this world. You have the time, I know that you do. I know your brain is like, but I don’t. I promise you this my love, you do. You will feel better and you will have more time when you start showing up for yourself.

The transformational questions and actions today are one, what is not showing up for yourself costing you? Number two, what is one small step that you can do to show up for yourself? Number three, how are you breaking commitments to yourself? Number four, make a commitment to yourself right now and decide you’re going to honor it, no matter what. You got this my love.

And if you need help and want to take this work deeper then take my free course at freebosscourse.com. I will teach you how to get started in this work. Ooh, so good. Bye for now.

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