EP 146: The Why of Weight Loss

Join me in this episode as I dive deep into the “why” of weight loss.

Now the why can be both external and internal.

It is important to understand all of your why’s because your brain will set expectations that are not meeting you where you are at if you are not evolving your mindset on the way down.

I will teach you how you to change your thinking to lose weight – instead of focusing on the food.

Are you ready to love yourself and enjoy the process? It is possible!

If you want to lose weight for the last time, then you have to know all the reasons, learn to love yourself through the process, and learn how to believe different things about yourself – and if you want support, the tools to do it come join us in Transform Boss Weight Loss.

In today’s episode, you will discover:

  • Understanding your “why”
  • Why it’s so important to stop should-ing yourself
  • How your “why” can keep you moving forward even when you want to give up

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Full Episode Transcript:

You are listening to the Weight Loss for Successful Women podcast with Shannan Christiansen episode number 146. Welcome to Weight Loss for Successful Women, a podcast for women who are ready to break the diet cycle and end their struggle with weight for good. Here’s your host, fortune 100 executive, and certified life coach, Shannan Christiansen.


Hello my love. So happy to be here with you today. My love we are in the thick of the challenge. I love the seven-day free challenges. They are so fun. It’s so fun to meet new ladies and watch them experience this work for the first time and to get some hope again. And we are open. Yes, Transform Boss Weight Loss is open. So if you’re listening to this, we are open this week. We are open until July 16th. So fun. I can’t wait to welcome all the new ladies in. You know, Transform Boss Weight Loss is a really comprehensive program with a full weight loss course, coaching, support, community. There’s just so many different facets. If you want to learn more about it, go to jointransformboss.com. It is the best weight loss program on the planet. I know this. I love it so much.


So something you might be noticing if you’re listening this week is that we’ve put some of the challenge teachings on the podcast. So there are some bonuses on the podcast that are going to expire on Sunday. So you want to listen to them this week. So if you’re in the challenge it’s great for replays. If you’re not in the challenge, it’s just a way to experience a little bit of the challenge. Now there’s other facets to the challenge. And then of course, we’re not going to put on Tuesday nights challenge teaching because it’s all around coaching and we’re going to do some coaching so we won’t put that episode.


But Ooh, what a bonus this week ladies. I love the challenge this week. I just can’t even barely sleep. I want to sleep cause I want to get rested, but I tell you, I get so excited. I love interacting in the challenge Facebook private group. Like it’s just so fun. I love welcoming in all the new ladies to Transform Boss Weight Loss. Oh, my loves it is the best.


So I was talking to my team and talking about, you know, they’re so excited because they too love, you know, showing women that there’s a different way and that they can change their lives and become the hero of their own story and take back their power and control. So today I just want to talk a little bit about the why of weight loss. Now my very first episode of the podcast is all about compelling reason and why, but I want to give a little different spin and tell you a little story today. We have the why, right? If I asked, why do you want to lose weight, you could tell me all the reasons.


We have external reasons, internal reasons. We want to feel better in our clothes. Maybe you want to ride a roller coaster, or you want that seatbelt to click on an airplane. Maybe you just want to feel better, look better, feel healthy. And then too, we have some internal, you know, reasons where we want to feel better about ourselves. And it is so important. My why has gotten me through so many times where I wanted to quit, where I wanted to give up and I had to keep reminding, even to this day, I write down my why’s. Like, why do I want to do the things right? Why do I want to have a business? Why do I want to keep showing up for certain things aspects of my life? And it’s important because there are times where you want to give up, where you just want to stay comfortable. And so really understanding your why is so important.


Now, it’s also important to understand the complete picture of your why, because what I found when I was losing weight and I was going through the process, my brain was setting old diet, old socialized expectations that were not really meeting me where I was at. So I’ll give you an example of this. So way before this work, I had lost some weight and I was feeling pretty good, and I had this goal that I wanted to wear a bathing suit. And I have this picture in my mind. And this picture in my mind was, again, a socialized picture, you know ladies, perfect body running down the beach, you know.


And so I had lost some weight, I was feeling so good and went on vacation with my husband, and we went zip lining and all of these things. And then, you know, I saw this picture of myself in the bathing suit, and my love, all of these negative thoughts came in like, oh my gosh, look at the loose skin. Look at your arms. You know, all of these things. Because I had this beautiful why of wanting to feel confident in my bathing suit, and then I saw a picture and it just derailed me. I remember looking at it and just thinking, what does it even matter? Why do I even want to lose weight? And what happened is I slowly started to regain the weight that I had lost. I started sabotaging my success.


Again, it started with this simple reason why I wanted to lose weight, but I had not changed my thinking. Because I was working with a nutritionist at the time and I was just focused on the food, and I wasn’t evolving my thought process. I still had this idea of who I was going to be suddenly miraculously turn into, I don’t know, 120-pound photoshop model, and ladies it’s, we’re socialized. We see this all of the time.


And then also what happened, and I think this happens for many of us, we set this kind of imaginary finish line of when I get there, it will be better. When I lose my weight it will be amazing. It will be great. And then when we get there, it’s just not good enough. How many times have you, as you’re on this diet roller coaster, you have started to regain your weight because there are these sneaky little thoughts that it’s still not good enough. And then you start shoulding, S H O U L D I N G yourself. And you start telling yourself that you should be doing this. You should be doing that. And again, it’s just this thought looping that we’re going to feel better when we get there.


We get there, and then we move the finish line because it’s still not good enough. This work of evolving our mindset, evolving our thinking is so important. Whenever you have this thought that you will feel better, it will be better when I lose this weight, it will, you know, everything will change or I will feel better then, I just want you to know that it’s available to you now.


I had to keep, as I was losing my weight for the last time, evolving my thinking and my why. I wanted to lose weight because of many reasons. I wanted to have a healthy, free body. I wanted to show women that you could lose it and keep it off without dieting. I had all the external and internal reasons. To lose weight for the very last time I had to evolve my why and really understand the core of what I wanted. I wanted to live in a body that felt free. I wanted to feel healthy and be able to move my body. I wanted to stop, one of the reasons. I didn’t want to think about food all the time. I wanted to feel more confident and better about myself.


I wanted to fall in love with my body. I wanted all of it, the stretch marks, the loose skin, all of it. I wanted to love the body that I was in. It ultimately was such an important why for me and I wanted to evolve my thinking. As I was losing the weight, I continually got coached. I continually worked on my thinking and my beliefs. That is how I learned to lose weight for the last time. I learned how to love myself through the process of losing weight. And I started to enjoy the process. And I knew that it would not be better there when I lost all of it than it was back then.


So just understand that today, everything is available. Today, you can feel better about yourself today. You can love the process of losing weight. I learned how to lose weight in a way that I could always do. And my why’s, they keep evolving as do I. Your why, the reason, the thing that keeps you moving forward, is important because you will want to give up. There are times where you won’t want to invest in yourself. You’ll want to stay comfortable.


You’ll want to not do the thing. But your why can keep you moving forward. And as your thinking is changing, as it’s evolving, as you’re learning to believe new things about yourself, it’s just the package deal. Your why with your new beliefs is how you lose weight for the very last time. If you want to lose weight for the last time, you have to know all of the reasons, learn to love yourself through the process and learn how to believe different things about yourself.


And if you want the support, the tools, then come join us in Transform Boss Weight Loss. We are open until Saturday and I cannot wait to be your coach. Go to jointransformboss.com. I cannot wait. All right, my love. Bye for now.


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