Allow it instead of trying to avoid it

Happy Sunday from California! I was thinking about this concept of a beach ball as I was walking pass the pool this morning.

Have you ever tried to hold a beach ball under water in a pool? If you have not it is harder than you think, it keeps wanting to come to the surface and it takes a lot of resistance to hold it under the water.

This is a great metaphor for trying to resist our emotions and hold them in… They just keep coming to the surface and sometimes with a lot of force. They can even manifest into physical symptoms and it can turn into illness.

There are several ways we can handle our feelings:
Avoiding- Using avoidance tactics like disconnecting or buffering to avoid feeling an emotion

Resisting- This is where we keep pushing it down, like the beach ball

Indulging- Staying in an indulgent emotion like self-pity or confusion, not moving forward

Allowing- It is where you take a deep breath and feel the emotion all the way through

Learning to feel any emotion and allowing it takes practice. Start by becoming aware if you are feeling a negative emotion. Look for triggers like buffering and disconnecting.

Then ask yourself these questions:
Where do you feel it in your body?
How would you describe it to someone?
Can you name the feeling?

Try it on, the next time you are reaching for a cupcake or your hand is at the bottom of a chip bag, look to see what emotion you are feeling and allow it instead of trying to avoid it with overeating……

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How to Stop Quitting on Yourself

Hi Loves!

Facebook live for women tomorrow in my private page…

I know how it feels to start a diet and then quit and have to start over… Over and over. Until I figured out how to lose weight and keep it off, this was my pattern. It was a very frustrating, guilty, and insane way to live. I often felt like a failure.

I figured out the secret about how to break this pattern. I am off the diet roller coaster, and I have kept the weight off.

One of the big secrets is i learned “How to Stop Quitting on Myself,” and I have stuck with personal principles that have helped me to lose weight and keep the weight off.

So, the answer to not starting over and over is not quitting on yourself. This will be the topic of my Facebook live tomorrow, so if you are tired of quitting on yourself, listen to this Facebook live tomorrow morning.

You will need to be a member of my Private page for women only, so if you haven’t requested to join yet,

Request to join here:

What: Facebook Live with Shannan of BFLYcoaching

When: Tomorrow, Saturday, August 3rd 
8am PST / 11am EST.

Who: Shannan and everyone who wants to learn how to stop quitting on yourself

Where: Facebook live on this link:

Why: Because you want to learn how to stop quitting on yourself