Facebook Live #57: Why You Want to Lose Weight

Join me in this episode as I dig deep into why, and why do you want to lose weight for the last time. Why do you want to get off that horrible diet roller-coaster. And to just talk through how knowing your why and relying on it and doing the work on really understanding really why you want to do the work to lose weight for the last time. 

When I first started this work of figuring out how to lose weight for the very last time, I had to really dig deep because what was normal to me was dieting, losing weight, gaining weight. I was just so used to the struggle.  

Listen in as I talk about how I had to figure out my why. Why did I even want to lose weight. Because so many times we just skip that step. We think it is just because we want to live in a skinnier body. But really digging deep and finding your underlying reason why you want to live in freedom in a body you love is what will bring you success.

You won’t find any fad diets or quick fixes here, just how to find freedom from food. Are you ready to learn a different way?

And if you want to go deeper on this work, if you want to get coached or if you want to watch coaching, if you want to watch breakthroughs where the ladies learn how to lose weight for the last time, I’m giving you the biggest sneak peek into Transform. You still have time to register for the Transform BootCamp. It is a bootcamp for your mind, where you can learn the process, the basics of how to get started. You can still sign up if you sign up by today, Saturday, August 28 by 1 p.m. EST. Go to bflycoaching.com/BC for all the details. This is a 5-day coaching experience, where besides the coaching, you can learn how to lose weight for the last time still eating your favorite foods, and how to change all those old diet beliefs that have kept you stuck and just quitting on yourself. All for only $19, and you will have access to all the replays for a year.  And to my Transform Bosses, don’t worry, you are already in, it’s already on your calendar.

If you love this work and want to go deeper, take my free course, where I share my experience and the 3 tools that I used to get off the diet roller coaster. All you have to do is click here to learn more!

What You’ll Discover:

  • How to find your why
  • How to have freedom from food
  • How not to quit on yourself

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Ep #100: Advice from Weight Loss Coaches

Can you even believe it? We are at episode 100! Today, we have a very, very special episode. Today I am bringing on our weight loss coaches, and they are going to share their stories, and also share some tips that have helped them along the way.

Join us in this episode as we will be talking with Dawn Richards and Jenn Taylor. We all have these painful hard stories, and that is what ties us all together. We get to that point of “I just can’t do this anymore.” 

We will be talking about what a life coach us, and how it can help us, not just in our weight loss journey, but in all areas of our lives. How we help women discover their own thoughts and pull out all those beliefs we have been taught all our lives that may not serve us, and how to turn those thoughts around so you can learn to love yourself again.

We all have time to show up for ourselves. We can all make more time over time.  It doesn’t take as much time as you think to show up for yourself.

You are worth the time and money to focus on yourself. It is the best work you will do of your life. To show up in a way that serves you, living your authentic life.

Also, get into our Transform BootCamp. You do not want to miss it. You can experience Transform and dip your toe and see what life coaching is all about.  The deadline to register is August 27. Go to bflycoaching.com/BC

In today’s episode, you will discover:

  • How Transform can teach you to make a commitment to yourself
  • Time is just an excuse – I’m too busy
  • Fear doesn’t have to stop us
  • How to stop putting you off

Do you want to learn more about my tools – take my free course. You can go to bflycoaching.com/ready to take it and learn the fundamentals of what I teach, tools that can help you start to lose weight for the last time.

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You are listening to the Weight Loss for Successful Women podcast with Shannan Christiansen episode number 100! Welcome to Weight Loss for Successful Women, a podcast for women who are ready to break the diet cycle and end their struggle with weight for good. Here’s your host, fortune 100 executive, and certified life coach, Shannan Christiansen.

Hello love. I am so happy to be back with you. Can you even believe it? 100? We’re at 100! I can’t even believe it. A hundred weeks. I’ve come every single week and shared my journey, my story, tools, tips. And today we have a very, very special episode. Today I’m going to bring on the Transform weight loss coaches. These two beautiful ladies are going to share a little bit about their story, and they’re also going to give some tips and some things that have really helped them along the journey that they have been on.

And if you love this show, please rate and review it. I read every single one of them. And also make sure you subscribe so I’m in your list every Wednesday morning.

So ladies, so I want to just do a really quick brief intro to both of the ladies. And I think each one of them are just really special women and they have different stories. But I think in this journey of being a woman, we always find this at the core of all of us, these struggles. So we’re going to really dive into it today. I am going to first introduce all of you ladies who are listening to Dawn Richards. I’m going to ask you to introduce yourself a little bit. Just tell the ladies who are listening how long you’ve been in Transform and a little bit about your story, a little bit about you.

Okay. My Name is Dawn Richardson. I am a Transform weight loss coach and I have been with Shannan just about 20 months now. And I am a mom. I teach high school math, which is just crazy in itself. I’m a wife, I’m a sister, I’m all of the things. I do all the stuff. And I have lost 61 pounds with Shannan’s program. I know it’s so exciting. And you know, my story it’s kind of a tough story. I met Shannan in one of the lowest parts of my life.

I was very depressed. I, there was very little light in my life. I had a lot of loss. I had lost a son and several other family members and I had some, some depression and I had totally given up on myself. I really had, and I didn’t want to diet anymore. I really didn’t want to work on myself at all. And when I found Shannan, I connected instantly to her because she had lost weight and she had had a lot of loss herself. And luckily, not luckily, but on purpose, she has truly helped me regain the light in my life.

Yeah, my love, I mean, I’m so happy. You know, sometimes they’re like Shannan, we saw your ad and I’m always like, yay. I’m so happy. I’m happy that you found me. You know, ladies stumble across the podcast. And when I think of all the women that I am blessed enough to work with, we’ve all had these losses. We’ve had pain, we’ve had trauma. We have these amazing, hard, wonderful, painful, you know, stories. And it’s what really ties us together.

And I remember when I first met you and I remember you telling me, like, I don’t want to diet anymore. Like I just, I can’t diet anymore. I can’t do this anymore. And when you first kind of started what was like, one of the things that you were like, okay, this is a little bit different. This is a little bit different than this diet rollercoaster restrict, count the points, things that you’ve done before? Well, one of the biggest things that struck me was you asked me to make a commitment to myself. You asked me, you told us that we never commit to ourselves. We commit to everybody else. And when was the last time you made a commitment and stuck to it?

And when you, when you said that it really struck me. I was like, I give everything to everybody else in my life. And I never take time for myself. And I really wanted to commit to myself for once. First time in my life, I wanted to make a commitment and keep it to myself. I had had all these things that were left undone in my life that I never finished. And I was like, I want to commit. I want to make a commitment to myself.

Mm. That is good. We’re going to talk about time. I want to talk about time. So, don’t let me forget, because I want to talk about time because I think as ladies, we’re always like, we’re so busy. I’m so busy, Shannan. Ladies tell me I’m too busy. I don’t have time. This is going on. That is going on. You know, all the things. But before we do that, we have another Transform weight loss coach, Jenn Taylor. Jenn, tell the ladies a little bit about you.

Hi, my name is Jenn Taylor and I also happen to live in Utah. I am a mom of two boys and married and I actually do work for BFLY on the back end also. So I get to coach and do some of the back end work. So it’s really awesome to surround myself with this work. I would say for my weight loss journey, I probably didn’t struggle with weight loss until my college years, you know, out on my own, figuring out life. Mom’s not cooking for you anymore. All of that stuff. And just dealing with the different emotions and the different more so thoughts. I mean, now I know at the time I didn’t know, but thoughts that you’re having in your head and, and the stories that you’re telling yourself.

And so I really started to lose some of my self-confidence, you know, trying to figure out who I really was, who I really wanted to become and dealt with throughout life, having my two boys. And then just some really hard things family-wise that kind of came up that sent me through a spiral and really just knocked me to the ground. You know, it was just one of those situations that I just didn’t know how to handle it at the time. And it just really took me down.

And so I came across Shannan’s work and again, it was at the perfect timing in my life. I really feel like, you know, I had done other weight loss programs in the past, but this is weight loss, but also it is so much more because you’re focusing on getting back in touch with your body and focusing on your mind and loving yourself. And I really, I mean I think everybody needs this, but I really like deeply, deeply needed this work at the time that I came across Shannan. And so it really was just such a blessing in disguise, like looking back at how it fell into my life at the time, how it came in. And so it’s been amazing to be able to do this work and now get to coach for Transform.

I want to ask you Jenn, you know, coaching. So we’re coaches and life coaches. And I think sometimes people are like, what is that? Like, what does that even mean? Right. I think if I said, Hey, I was a baseball coach, everybody would kind of get what I did and would understand how we would help, you know, a baseball team. Or if I was a gymnastics coach, they’d be like, oh yeah, I get that, right. But a weight loss coach or life coach, what does that, what does that mean to you?

How I would describe it. And when people ask us, you know, what do you do for a living? I really, and like a simplified version as a coach, you really are just helping women to discover their own thoughts, to really dig deep into thoughts and beliefs that have been put into us since we were children and really just pull them out and work for them and see, it’s really crazy that we’re making some of these thoughts that, you know, something somebody said to us when we were nine years old and now we’re 30, 40, 50, and we’re still making it mean something about us. And so really just digging into those thoughts and pulling, helping women pull them out and really helping them like, see how amazing they are and helping them start to love themselves.

Yeah. You know, I saw this, so we have this in Transform, we have this private community and in this private community, I saw one of the ladies post today about, she posted this analogy and I really loved it. And it was about basically, she’d been kind of noticing like her car wasn’t running perfectly, but she wanted to ignore it. She didn’t want to like pay attention to what kind of was happening. Right. She was just like, no, no, I’m just going to keep ignoring it. Cause I don’t want to deal with that. Right. But it’s still there. Right. And I think our mind, we have all of these really old beliefs, these thoughts, these things that we were, you know, taught, things that we’ve learned over the years through socialization, and then we don’t want to look at it.

But what happens is it’s driving our behavior, it’s driving the actions, it’s driving the things that we do, how we feel. And coaching helps to uncover things you don’t see. Things that are in there that are just surfing around. They’re there, they’re like that, you know, sound and the, you kind of hear it. Sometimes it’s like that sound in that car. You kind of hear it, but you don’t want to see it. And so I thought that was just a really great analogy today about what coaching really is. It’s just uncovering these old belief systems that are keeping you stuck, keeping you self-sabotaging in so many different areas of your life.

You know, weight is just an outer symptom, right? We build this wall of weight around our bodies, this protection. Oh man, I had this big wall of weight for most of my life around me, but it was just because I didn’t know how to deal with feeling the feelings, and really the thoughts and beliefs that I had about myself, my worth my, you know, me being good enough, my capabilities. And so, you know, I loved your answer Jenn, because it just really is just uncovering what’s there and then tools so that you can like move forward so that you can take action to start to change some of that so your, you know, results can change too.

Dawn, anything you want to add about coaching as you’ve really experienced, you know, coaching over the last couple of years? Coaching has helped me realize that I have things in my brain that are, I don’t even, I’m not even aware of. And it has just uncovered these roadblocks that I didn’t even know were there. I just always lived in this automatic, like every day I do the same thing, and coaching has helped me realize that I’m in control of my life and I get to choose what I think and how I feel and truly how I act. And it’s uncovered everything that, as I said, I didn’t even know was there and just helped me move forward in my life.

Yeah. I think that’s it too. Right? Like this is the thing, ladies. I think all of us are just on this journey of exploration, and this journey, and for most of us, most women, we want to continually improve. We want to feel better. We want to feel energized about our life. We want to feel excited about what we’re doing, how we’re showing up. And sometimes we just don’t know how. Sometimes we’re just in this automatic pilot where we just feel like we’re drowning, kind of barely getting everything off of our to-do list.

And so I want to talk about time because you know, I’m a woman, I work, I have a family, and I hear a lot with women that I don’t have time. I don’t have time to show up for myself. And my instant reaction is you don’t have time not to. That’s my, like my gut response, but I get it. I get it. So Jenn, you’re a mom, your, your husband works out of town most weeks so you’re kind of a pseudo single mom during the week when he’s out of town. Right. And so you’re doing all the things. You have family obligations, you work for BFLY in addition to being a coach. And so what do you think when it comes to time and you working on you?

You know, just as you were speaking, what came into my head old Jenn, when I was in that mindset of, I don’t have time to focus on me is I was so busy, thought looping and worrying about not having time, that the extra time I had I was spending on worrying about time. And it was so counterproductive. What I found to really help, especially as a mom, when I was starting this work was building it into my already schedule. If I’m doing laundry, listen to a podcast. If I’m showering, sometimes I listen. When the kids go down at night, I’ll commit to, I’m going to listen to one video and do one worksheet.

It’s just finding you don’t have to necessarily block out hours or even an hour of your time. It’s in these little increments of 10 minutes, 30 minutes, whatever that looks like for you. And then just fitting in what you can. And for me, the more that I do the work and I make the time for myself, I, like you said, I want to grow. I want to learn this work and have it be second nature. And so you just make more time over time.

Oh yeah. You know, I was thinking about as you were talking time, right? I think time is just an excuse for us. We’ve used it for so long. I mean, shoot, I’ve used it to get out of things I don’t want to do. Right. I mean, right. Oh, I’m so busy. I got two jobs, you know, the whole thing. Right. And so we’re just really used to just saying, I’m too busy. We use our kids, our families, our spouses. We just say, we’re too busy because really it’s not time. It’s this fear of like, what if, what if I find out something and I can’t deal with it? What if I explore this brain of mine.

Ladies, I just want to offer that you’ve already done hard things. You’ve already made it through so many hard things. And you starting to show up for yourself. You starting to do different, hard things that actually serve you, you will find more peace. You will find, you know, this sense of accomplishment, this sense of feeling pride for yourself. You will start to feel Unstoppable. Like, and that’s what happens. And fear is just part of it. Fear is just, you know, along for the ride, but fear, we don’t let it stop us. And I think every woman who is listening to this right now, like as you’re listening to this, I want you to, just for a moment to imagine all the things that you have been scared out of your mind and you did it anyways, and that is when you really grow, and when you really come into yourself. And, you know, fear, yeah, it’s going to be along for the ride, for sure. But right. But we don’t, we don’t stop us.

I was thinking about this too. You know, we just came off this member only event Unstoppable Live and it was this phenomenal, phenomenal event. And we saw so many ladies take two days, some ladies, two and a half because we had in-person ladies. And we also had, you know, virtual ladies, we had both and ladies flew here to Arizona, including you, both of you. And I think about, and then they spent two days, even the virtual ladies, two full days, they told their families, this is for me. And I’m watching just through the event. And then after, right, it’s been a couple of days now since the end and ladies are just like breakthrough after breakthrough, after breakthrough, they are just learning how to show up for themselves. And it’s showing up in so many different areas of their life.

And so, you know, ladies, time, we got to stop using it as an excuse. Now, Dawn, you’re a mom. You’re you, you got this gig as a weight loss coach and you’re a teacher and you know, you lost your weight during a pandemic during all the things. So when you were trying to figure out how to teach your kids online and do all the things, right? So when you hear, you know, someone who’s saying I’m really struggling to find time for me, what would you tell them? What advice would you give them?

For me, when I used to say that to myself, I used to say that all the time, it was really an excuse because I didn’t necessarily like myself. I didn’t like my body and I didn’t think that I should spend time on it. And so for me, I, when somebody says that to me, I’m like, oh no, you, you don’t realize like it doesn’t take as much time as you think to show up for yourself, you can show up for yourself just in your thoughts. You show up for yourself, just sitting and eating dinner and being present with yourself.

There’s so many ways you can show up for yourself that you do every day. And just in a little bit of changing, it doesn’t take as much time as you think. It takes three minutes to write your realistic plan. You know? And I think people, they think, oh my heck, a diet is so big. It’s more than me. I can’t do it. I’m not enough. But those are excuses too. We are enough and we’re worth our work. And you just need to realize it’s not going to take as much time as you think. And you just need to sit down and take the time for yourself.

Yeah. Yeah. Cause it is it’s, it’s just a lie we tell ourselves because you know, you gave a few hints there. You know, some tips, the tips were, Hey, you’re sitting at dinner, Hey, let’s just come into awareness. Be present. Hey, let’s make our realistic plan. And you know, one of the concepts that I really taught at Unstoppable Live, and I really feel passionate about this is C work.

Ladies, we think that we have to do everything perfectly. And that is just, it is perfectionism. It is trauma. It is, you know, I said, this, this weekend, A work is trauma. And what I mean by that is it puts these expectations and then we just shut down and so C work, doing things in a, in a fashion that isn’t perfect. Making your realistic plan. We have a concept in Transform called minimum baselines where you put in a minimum, right. I’m going to make it three out of seven days or four out of seven days so that you can start to see success. Because perfectionism thinking that you have to do everything, you just don’t start.

You don’t do anything. You just kind of like, okay, like, right. And you just, and you just keep putting you off. You keep putting you off. And I tell you, if you are listening today, stop putting you off because there is no better time. There is no right time to do this work. You can start right now today you can start right now. You can go to episode six and learn all about the realistic plan. You can come to, you know, our five-day coaching experience, bflycoaching.com/BC. That’s happening in a few days. The deadline, if you’re listening to this, the deadline is August, I think 27th to register. But ladies just stop putting yourself off because I I’m telling you, I did it for so many years and it just kept me feeling like I was drowning.

Now ladies love to say, I don’t have enough money to lose weight. Oh my ladies, I know I was like that because I had spent so much money on so much just ridiculous stuff. Right. I bought all the supplements. I mean, hydroxy. I don’t know what I think about all the things. Jenny Craig, I can name a million things all the times I went to the store and I’m like, I’m eating healthy this week. And I would go and I’d fill my cart with like vegetables and like organic and this, you know, lean meats. I’m like, I’m doing it. And then the time would come and I didn’t do it. I didn’t do it. And so that food would go to waste.

I have wasted so much money on “diets.” And I just want everyone who’s listening, I don’t do diets. I don’t do diets. You don’t have to make special meals for you versus your family. So I want to ask Dawn, because Dawn, this was right when you first started, like I don’t have to make different plans. So yeah. So tell me, ore different food for my family. So when you hear someone say, I can’t afford, right. I can’t afford to lose weight. Let’s talk about that. What do you think about that?

Well, I love what you said you can’t afford not to, but at the same time, like I don’t cook separate meals for my family. I cook one meal and we eat all have the same meal or I may add a salad or something to mine or something like that. But I, and I don’t buy special foods either. I have not had a shake in a million years. You know what I mean? I, I shop at my local grocery store. I don’t buy anything that’s that’s diety anymore.

There are not diet foods in my house. There are normal foods and normal bread. Normal, I know that’s weird, normal bread is there. Yeah. There’s real bread. What do you mean, you eat white bread? What is happening? You know what I mean? But You know, and I have milk and I have cream and I have butter and I, and you know what, they feel great in my body. I just listen to my body and I feed it what it needs. And really, I don’t eat as much as I used to, but I still eat exactly what my family eats.

Yeah. I think about that too. You know, ladies, when I think about when I was on the diet roller coaster, how much money I spent. Oh my goodness. I mean, how much money I would spend, like going to get my sugar cookie fix and my chocolate fix. I’m a sugar girl. So I know if you’re savory, it’s something different. Maybe it’s your pizza fix, but whatever it is, I spent so much money on that. And now food is literally the least important thing in my life.

And I just, you know, like I just don’t spend as much money because I don’t need to overindulge and overeat. I get to choose and eat whatever it is that I want to eat. I eat all kinds of different foods, foods that fuel me, foods that don’t, but I spend a whole lot less time and a whole lot less money on this whole food thing.

So Jenn, what, when I said that, what popped in your brain? I think of when, I mean, I just think, honestly, Shannan undercharges us for her program. Every time she says the price on, you know, on a call to someone I’m like what? Because as a family of four, we will go out to dinner and spend that in one shot pretty much or go to Target or, you know, there’s all these other things that, I mean, I am a coffee lover and so coffee is not cheap. I have, I don’t even want to add up what I’ve spent on coffee. So I will go and spend, in the past I would have gone and spent money on coffee, but not on myself for something like this. Right.

And so I think for me, it was just about finding my worth that I was okay. It was okay to, I was worth spending that money on myself to focus on myself and improve myself. Before I would have been like, we have to spend it on something for the family or save it. I would have, you know, justified not spending it. And I just think like, I hope whoever is listening, that you just know that you are worth the time and the money to focus on yourself because it’s the best work that you’re going to do of your life. Like when you can show up for yourself in a way that serves you and you feel like you are living your authentic life, the way that you show up for those around you is the way that you want to.

Yeah. And you know, Jenn, I did the quick math. Oh no. If you spent $5 a day, five days a week. And let’s just say, you know, I don’t know. Let’s just say, you know, you, you didn’t do it a couple weeks of the year. It’s over $1,200 a year and ladies that’s coffee or that, you know, stopping at, you know, well Circle K here, or I don’t know where it is all over the country, but stopping at your gas station and filling up on the Cinnabons or whatever it is for you or the pizzas or the corn dogs or whatever it is, you know, stopping through Sonic and grabbing, you know, chili cheese dog, and tots $5 a day in a whole year. It’s, it’s over 1200. It’s probably closer to like 1400 bucks if you did it just five days a week or $5 a day, five days a week.

And so I dunno, ladies, this is what I know. We have these things, time, money, and they’re these two, like really big things that prevent us from doing the work of our lives. And it’s all because for the most of us, because we have some fear, we don’t want to fail again. We failed so many times and we have been traumatized by the diet industry by diet culture, by these false promises, by restriction. And because of that, we have so much fear of like, well, what if I don’t, what if this doesn’t work? What if I, you know, come into Transform or I start to do this work and I don’t do it. And so as we kind of, you know, in today, cause this time is going so fast. I mean, I could spend all day with you ladies.

So as we kind of end, you know, what would you say to, you know, if you were coaching someone and they just said, you know, what, if I fail again? Dawn. I would tell a lady that she is so worth her time and her energy. She’s so worth her work. We are worth our time. And we have thought so long that we’re not enough that we’re broken. And we are none of these things. We deserve all the love and grace, the forgiveness, all of those things for ourselves. And we have put ourselves off for so long and we deserve to spend just a little bit of time on ourselves.

Yes, that’s so good. Jenn. I would say that one of the most important things that I have learned and continue to learn in Transform is that failing is necessary. We need to fail to progress. Us failing means that we are up leveling. We are growing and you will be surrounded by the most amazing community. Shannan just talked about our live event and I like have butterflies talking about it because it really was. We got to meet some of the other women in person. And it was an amazing two days virtually also like those ladies are incredible.

Just the community that you have in Transform is just unlike any that I’ve been in. You’ll be welcomed with open arms. And when you fail, they’re right there to pick you up, to cheer you on, and to, you know, offer different solutions or talk with you through, you know, here’s advice, here’s what’s worked for me. And so I just think, yes, it is scary to try something new and to fail, but we have to get to a point where we are okay failing.

I loved both of what you said, because failure is the only way and we have this fear of it. So we don’t even start. We don’t even begin, but honestly love I get that we failed because we’ve been traumatized by restriction and then overeating, right? So we’ve either been in these really overeating cycles or really restrictive cycles. And so this failure that I’m talking about is a failure of learning how to fail with love and kindness and some grace for yourself and learning that, you know, what can I learn from it instead of beating yourself up, instead of telling yourself that you’re not good enough, and you know, you can’t do anything and you’re not capable and you were always meant to be overweight. And you were always meant to, you know, all of that, because all of that is just nonsense. Honestly, it’s just nonsense. You were made to honestly live your best life, your very best life in a body that you love, in a body that you love.

So Jenn and Dawn, we have one more minute. And so if you could, you know, tell a lady, coach a lady and you were to give them one piece of advice of this journey that they’re starting no matter where they’re starting, if they’re starting the podcast, or I know we have ladies who are listening, who are newly in Transform, what would you tell them? Dawn. I would tell them that to make a commitment to themselves and honor the commitment that they make. Tell, tell yourself the truth, speak to yourself in a loving way. You haven’t done it for so long. Learn to listen to your body and listen to your thoughts.

Hm. I love it. Jenn. That is so good Dawn. I would tell them to stop comparing their journey to somebody else’s because I think that one of the most important lessons, I think I say this about everything, ladies, you’ll see, there’s so much to learn, but really, you know, I’ve been on these fad diets where it’s a race, how fast can we lose this weight? And we compare to those around us. And it, all it does is set us up for failure and disappointment. So stop comparing your journey to those around you. Just show up for yourself like Dawn said, keep the commitment and know, that the way that you’re showing up is the perfect way for you.

I love it ladies. Dawn and Jenn. I mean, I love you ladies. Dawn and Jenn are our weight-loss coaches in Transform. They help ladies, they coach them and they run calls for us. They’re just amazing. And if you’re listening to this right now, and you’re listening to this on the day that it’s published, get into our bootcamp, the Transform BootCamp is happening. You do not want to miss it. It is a way for you to experience Transform and kind of dip your toe and see what coaching is all about.

And so you don’t want to miss out. I think the deadline to register might be the 27th. I’m pretty sure, but you know, check the link. The link will, the link will tell you. It’s bflycoaching.com/BC. All right, bye for now.

Thank you for listening to this episode of Weight Loss for Successful Women. If you love what you heard today and want to learn more, come on over to bflycoaching.com. See you next week.

EP #99: How they did it – The Transform Bosses

Episode 99! We have such a special treat today. You are going to meet some of the most beautiful ladies on today’s podcast. Today we have a few of the ladies of Transform.  These are ladies who are in the Transform Weight Loss Program.  They will come on and will share a little bit about their stories and will also give you some advice and tips that have helped them along their journey.

Don’t forget we are doing a big give away for our 100th episode.  So make sure you leave a written review for our podcast, and you will be entered into a drawing to win a basket of all my favorite things.  We will draw on August 26th.  You have to have the entry in by August 25.  Go to bflycoaching.com/fun100 for all the details.

Join us in this episode as I talk to Kelly, Yvette, Deb, Dana, and Sharon. These ladies have all been where you might be right now. They have tried all the diets, feeling all the feelings of never losing their weight or living in a body they love. They joined Transform Weight Loss Program and started using the tools I teach, and I’ve seen their transformation right before my eyes, not just in weight loss, but in the way they carry themselves too.

We will talk about their favorite tools that I teach that have helped them the most, and what got them interested to join Transform. They will also share amazing pieces of advice for any of you who might just be starting, to give you the motivation and encouragement that you are on the right path. 

And if you want to experience something amazing, we will be having the Transform BootCamp. This is the first time I have ever done anything like this.  It will be a 5-day teaching and coaching experience. Go to bflycoaching.com/BC to learn all about it.

In today’s episode, you will discover:

  • Tools my Transform Bosses use that have helped them the most
  • How they keep commitments to themselves
  • The only human you can control is you
  • Advice they have for any of you who might just be starting out

Do you want to learn more about my tools – take my free course. You can go to bflycoaching.com/ready to take it and learn the fundamentals of what I teach, tools that can help you start to lose weight for the last time.

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You are listening to the Weight Loss for Successful Women podcast with Shannan Christiansen episode number 99. Welcome to Weight Loss for Successful Women, a podcast for women who are ready to break the diet cycle and end their struggle with weight for good. Here’s your host, fortune 100 executive, and certified life coach, Shannan Christiansen.

Hello love. I am so happy to be back with you. Episode 99. I can’t even believe it. I’m so excited. We have such a special, special treat today. We, I just can’t wait. You are going to meet some of the most beautiful women on the podcast today. If you’ve been listening to me for a while, you know I don’t have a lot of guests I’ve only ever had one other episode ever in the lifetime of the podcast where I had other ladies on.

And today we have the ladies of Transform. These are women who are members of Transform Weight Loss Program, and they are going to come on and they’re going to share a little bit about their stories and they’re going to give you some advice and some tips that have really helped them along their journey. So I am just so excited about it today.

Now, before we get into the show, if you are loving the show, please rate and review the show. Make sure that you subscribe so I’m in your list every Wednesday morning. And ladies, we are doing a big giveaway for our hundredth episode. When you leave a written review for this podcast on Apple or iTunes, you can put yourself into a drawing for a basket of my favorite things. I am sure a piece of jewelry and a really nice blanket will be in there, and many other amazing things. We are going to draw on August 26. So you have to have your entry in by August 25th. So I have instructions and all of the details on bflycoaching.com/fun100.

Okay my loves. Are you ready to meet these amazing, amazing women? I mean, they are. I love each and every one of them, it has been a true blessing to get to know them. And I think you ladies are going to agree. So I am going to first ask Kelly, Kelly, if you’ll come on and just introduce yourself and just tell the ladies a little bit about yourself and how you found Transform.

Yes. So, so happy to be here with all of you today. My name is Kelly Anderson. I found Transform a year, I’ve been in Transform a year. So last July coming off of COVID or the middle of COVID, and, you know, I had gone to Sam’s club and bought the new diet craze, you know, keto drinks, and I brought them home and I was like, you know, I just cannot do it. I cannot do another crazy diet, and saw, I believe Shannan on a Facebook live that came on and she talked about getting off the diet roller coaster. And that was my main goal in joining Transform.

You know, through my twenties and thirties, you know, I could lose weight on some crazy diet, some crazy exercise plan, but I always gained it back. And then as I got into my fifties, it was impossible. I would still do the same thing, a crazy diet, a crazy exercise plan, but I would only lose 10 pounds and I would gain it right back. And so for me, learning how to keep off weight and maintain weight has been my, my biggest goal.

And I think for me, the realistic plan that Shannan teaches has been the best tool for me in maintaining weight. Because when you join Transform, Shannan says you can eat anything you want, to break that diet brain of excluding carbs or not eating fruit or whatever it was. And so that to me just gave me that license to make a plan, eat what I wanted, eat with my family. You know, I’ve been in Transform a year. I have lost 40 pounds. And since April, I have maintained that weight, that weight that I’ve been at. And it’s, that’s just the most amazing thing that I can imagine. You know, I do not have to be on a diet. I do not have to start another diet.

I’m on a plan that I can do for the rest of my life and maintain weight. Hey Kelly, tell the ladies, cause you’re all the things, right? You’re a mom, you’re a grandmother, you’re a wife, you work like all of the things. Right? And so up until, you know, I love the story about going, getting the Keto things, the shakes and being like, I just can’t do it again. But how long have you been on the diet rollercoaster? Yeah, I can remember being on my first diet at probably age 15, which was a liquid diet morning and lunch, and then you ate, you know, a sensible meal.

Yeah. I, I am a wife, a mother. I work full time. I, you know, I become a mentor in this program, which I love helping other women break that diet brain. And you know, the other part of Transform that has really been great for me is to feel my feelings. You’ve taught us physically how to feel our feelings in our body. So like if I’m dealing with a lot of anxiety or overwhelm, and I can physically feel that in my body, have it pass through and then I can move on to a new thought or challenge a new thought. Otherwise I’d be thought looping all day in worry and overwhelm. And it’s exhausting.

It is right. I think about this, you know, ladies, we overeat, we buffer, we overspend, we overwatch Netflix. We overwork, we overexercise because we don’t want to feel feelings and we’ve done it for so long it’s just habit. It is easier to not feel a feeling, to push it down than it is to stop, come into awareness, learn to feel that feeling. And I say easy, but really it’s just familiar to us. We’ve been doing it since we were probably in our teens, maybe even earlier. We have just learned how to not feel our feelings and we push them down.

But this is the thing my loves. Feelings, they don’t go away. They sit in our bodies, they sit, and so anxiety, stress, fear, sadness, all of it just lives there. And we can keep trying to push it down with a cupcake, but it will keep bubbling up. It will keep bubbling up. Thank you, Kelly. Thank you for introducing yourself.

I want to move to Yvette. Yvette, introduce yourself for the ladies and tell us a little bit about your journey to here today. Thanks Shannan. My name is Yvette Gardner and I have officially been with Transform for about a year. I am down 35 pounds, which is awesome for me. I learned of Transform, gosh, a couple years ago I guess, a friend had introduced me to the program. And I remember one of our first meetings where you started introducing me to the tools. One was you were asking me to make a realistic plan and it just, I was, no, I just fought against that.

I, it just could not sit in my brain at that moment, but over time I have, you know, I, I was thinking about the program. I was doing little bits and pieces, but about a year ago is when I joined, joined the group and really, you know, started doing the work. I have been on the diet rollercoaster since I was a little, maybe 10, 12, something like that. And I’ve done all the programs and have lost weight. I did surgery and lost weight, but I didn’t keep it off. And I didn’t keep it off because I was always looking for something outside of me to fix me. You know, thinking I can’t, you know, surgery is the only way I’m going to lose and, and I did lose, but I didn’t keep it off because I didn’t learn how to keep commitments to myself. And that is the biggest, most powerful tool that I have learned is starting to keep commitments to myself and that I do not have to be perfect.

I, you know, every day I do my best and that best will look different from day to day. So learning to trust myself and know that everything, you know, I think of you as my Ruby slippers, right? That I, that I had it all along. I just didn’t know it was there. And you have helped me to find that and find ways that I can keep commitments to myself and that I do trust myself. I would say that it, it hasn’t been quick, but I am also not white knuckling it. I am not panicked that if I, if I don’t make my plan, I’m going to put all the weight back on. Or if I don’t attend all the calls, I’m not worried about it. I know that I might gain a couple and lose a few and that’s okay.

It is honestly, you know, you say this is something that you can do for the rest of your life, and I believe that to be true. It took me a while to really get into the program, but I always have come back. And the reason that I have come back is because I know that it’s truth. I know that, you know, you hear it. You’re like, yeah, that, okay, that makes sense. And I’ve really valued the opportunity to learn from other women. Women who I know, and I know they are amazing and remarkable. And to hear that they don’t see that for themselves makes me think maybe I’m not really seeing myself clearly either. And that has, that’s been really powerful for me.

Yeah. Ooh, Yvette, you touched on something. You know, we just finished an event. It was a members only event, Unstoppable Live. And in this event, it was a two-day immersive experience. Lots of coaching, lots of women being coached by me. And the amazing part about it is, you know, ladies got to watch other women get coached. And the power of that when you’re in group coaching, is that you do see women and you think they’re so beautiful and amazing, and they’re talented and they have all these things. And then suddenly they start speaking about themselves in a way that you’re like, you don’t even, like what? Like I see you so different.

And then it, it does make you think, whoa, like what if all the things that I’ve been telling myself, those aren’t true either. It’s just these old beliefs that have just been kind of circling in my brain and they’re not true either. And it’s, it’s what’s keeping me stuck. It’s what’s keeping me sabotaging my success. It’s what’s keeping me from even starting. Ooh, thank you, Yvette.

All right Deb, coming over to you my love. I’m here for you. Introduce yourself my love. I am Deb Lowe, and I’m one of the mentors in this wonderful program. I feel like I have so many stories of this program. I could spend up my whole hour just talking about everything, but I actually joined in June of 2019. And then my husband went through a life-saving major surgery. And it was one of those things where, when you were telling me these stories about like, you know, here’s the things you need to do. Here’s, you know, all the different tools you offer. And I thought, I don’t know if I can do this. I just don’t know if this is going to be possible for me, but I’m going to try, because I have always trusted you and respected you.

And I thought she is going to lead me down the right path. I’m going to try this. And you know, when my husband had to go into the hospital and have the surgery, if I hadn’t started with you, you know, I could see myself just eating everything through my, through that time, through the surgery, through the recovery, months of recovery, like I could just see this, just eating my way through the whole thing. And not only that with you, it was the whole, just the way you open up, like made me see things differently. Like I, I mean, Shannan, you’ve known me for years.

I have guidebooks on everybody and rules on what people should be doing. And, you know, I’m a control issue and I’m going to control everybody and what they should do and how they should show up and how they should act. And, you know, right down to like my relationship with my mother and my expectations for her and everything. And so not only have I lost 35 pounds and still going, but it’s my relationships that have changed drastically, like a relationship with my mother that I wouldn’t have had two years ago, being able to go visit her this year and spend time with her and listen to her and realize like, just show her love and not expect anything else, and anything she said, that’s fine. The words are fine. They’re just words.

It’s just the whole process and the tools. And every time you might think, oh, I’m not losing fast enough, which is just a relative term, right? Because what’s really fast. It’s my own journey. But at the same time, really being able to at any obstacle, being able to deal with my thoughts and just understand like, the first time I’ll remember this too, you told me your thoughts drive your action. And I thought my head was going to explode because I thought that can’t really be true. That can’t be true. Like I have to control everybody. My thoughts are my thoughts and I’m going to force them on you and whatever. And when you told me the thoughts and the feelings and the actions and that’s what’s driving me to like my thought. And if I can change my thought or even find a neutral thought that I can live with and then drive that action. I mean, when you put that into practice, you realize how powerful that truly is in your daily life to everything, not just food, but you know, with my husband, right?

 Same thing, another story, you and I had a coaching session. And I was like, oh my God, he’s driving me crazy. He’s talk, talk, talk, talk. And I just want some peace and quiet. And he said, well, what if you just sat back and thought what a wonderful wife I am sitting here listening to his stories. And I thought, yes, I can do that. What a wonderful wife I am. You’re right. I am a wonderful wife. I’m going to sit back and listen to him, chit chat. And you know what, I can’t tell you how many times, like, it’s just so easy now, right? Like sometimes where I’m like, I want some alone time or whatever.

And he starts talking and I’m like, you know what? I love this man. I’m going to sit back and listen to thim chat. I’m a wonderful person for doing this. Look at me. Before I would’ve just been like, he’s not following the guide book I gave him, why is he not, he should be on step 57. And he’s not like, what is the problem with this? And the agitation that I used to get from that would just, just blow my mind. And now it’s like, I’m so much more calm because those things like that just don’t bother me anymore. Like you have just shown me just a whole new way of life that, you know, honestly, I mean, I could be a little mad that you weren’t started this years and years ago. I am very, very grateful that you started this when you did and I became part of this program because it was one of the best decisions I ever made. So thank you.

No, Deb, thank you. I, for sure help women lose weight. But I think the, the real core of all of this is learning how to one, become aware of all of your thoughts and beliefs, and then two, learning how to slowly over time, change them and to believe new things about yourself. And then the by-product of that is when you start to fall in love with yourself, when you start to really understand that the only human that you control is you. Trust me.

If I can figure out how to control the other humans, I really would tell you, but I haven’t figured out a way yet. And you really then start to actually have better relationships, and the people in your lives, they don’t change, but you, and the way that you think and the way that you see them and the evidence that you have for them, it starts to change. And it is just a really beautiful process. You know, Deb started at the beginning of this, when Deb first came to me, I would say, I mean, she was really nice right now, but she didn’t believe anything I was saying. She’s like, I don’t buy anything that you’re selling. And I, you know, she just really thought. The crazy part is, Deb just kept showing up. She just kept showing up, even though she didn’t totally believe it. And she totally didn’t buy it. She was like, okay, I am going to trust you. And she just kept doing it. And she’s just, she’s a, has had amazing, amazing results. Thank you, Deb.

Dana, Dana. Hello. My love, introduce yourself. Okay. Well, I am Dana and I am a wife and a mom and a grandma. Although my grandkids call me Lala and I’ve been on the diet roller coaster for at least 30 plus years, trying, you know, any diet that came along, some of them more than once when it didn’t work, you know, after I tried it initially, I just never stuck with any of them. It was always, you know, some kind of plan or a diet, you know, with the exercise program. I just, I couldn’t do it. If I didn’t do it every day perfectly, I gave up on it and gave up on myself as well.

And so last July, I was just scrolling through Facebook and I was actually actively looking for another plan. Cause the one that I just bought and hid it my nightstand didn’t work. I came across you guys and did a five day challenge. I joined, I’m down 34 pounds now, since last year. You telling us about our thoughts and we’re in control of our thoughts. And just because we have a thought, it doesn’t make it true. And I was like, what in the world? This could not be correct. This could not be correct. That we could, all along we’ve had the power to do something about changing our thoughts, but we didn’t know any better. You know what I mean? It’s life-changing is what it is.

I mean, the cherry on top is that you lose weight, but oh my God, like the stuff that I’ve been learning about myself and my thoughts and, and I’m like Deb, I have a manual for everybody as well. Shannan, you know, we’ve talked about my husband a couple of times, Maybe a couple, I’ve just changed my thoughts around my family. I’m just like so much more open to love them. You know, whatever they want to do. That’s up to them. I just show up and love them. That’s what I do. That’s my journey so far. I mean, I’m losing weight, but I’m learning a ton about myself. I’m just, I’m so honored to be a part of this program.

At first, when I joined, I thought, oh, no way. I’m not going in little groups, I’m not talking to anybody, not getting coached. I’m not doing any of it. No way. And then I thought what have I got to lose and the girls are all so friendly and welcoming, and they just talk to you like sisters, like you’re in a room full of friends and you just sit and you just start talking.

And before you know it, you’re sharing stuff about yourself and they’re helping you along with questions, anything that you need. And it’s just like a sisterhood. I mean, it’s, it’s just been so wonderful. I just, I love it. Yeah. And you know, Dana and with all the ladies, I mean, we love you ladies too.

And Dana, as you were talking and you know, you said at first I don’t want to do any of it. Right? Because we have these fears, right. This fear of, you know, what if I’m uncomfortable and what, you know, especially when you’re first being coached and you know, it’s like, oh, I’m being coached in front of others.

There is some fear around it. I think all of us, including myself, I’ve been coached in group settings. You know, I would say the first time, maybe even the first two times, it’s a little nerve wracking, but then you just decide that what you’re learning, the growth, the breakthroughs that you’re having, you would do it all day every day.

And then you’re like, okay, I’m going to get coached. I’m going to show up. I’m going to start doing things. These little steps at a time. Dana, I want to ask you a question. Cause it’s in my head right now. You know, I do teach the realistic plan. And I just remember this one time. This was, I mean, I don’t know, it was a long time ago. You posted, I can’t believe I get to eat whatever it is I want to eat. So tell the listeners about that. It’s true. I have no shame on my realistic plan. In fact, Kelly Anderson just asked me the other day, Kelly, she goes Dana, really, did you eat chili fries for breakfast? I’m like, no, no, no, really. I didn’t eat chili fries for breakfast. We were at the zoo and I accidentally skipped my, my L for lunch. They were really with my lunch, but seriously, you told us, look, be realistic, whatever you eat, put it down on your plan.

You don’t have to say like, you know, one day I went from eating pizza and then the next day I’m eating chicken and salad. That that is not me. That is not me. So I really, I have been eating what I normally eat. I’ve had pizza. I’ve had birthday parties so I’ve had birthday cake. I just put it on my plan.

And when I’m at those functions, my mind is not racing. I’m not thinking, oh my God, I really want this. Or I really want it. I put it on my plan. There’s no drama. I’ve had graduation parties this summer. I’ve had a Memorial. I’ve had like little events and I have not faltered on my plan one time, because I just wrote down what I was going to eat that day. And there was just no drama around it. And I’ve had a cupcake and I’ve had a cookie at the graduation party. And it’s just so freeing to just say, I’m going to trust myself. I’m putting this down on my plan.

And if I, you know, go off my plan one day, if I eat something that’s not in my plan. I just write down why, what it was. And I move on about it. You know what I mean? I don’t beat myself up and that has been like, that is mind blowing as well that you, you know, just because you’ve made one mistake, you don’t have to throw out the baby with the bath water.

You can stay, you can get right back on track. You know? And I think that was always an issue before too where if I didn’t do something a hundred percent, then I just gave up the whole thing, you know? So that’s it. I eat, I eat real food. I eat what I like, and, and I’m in there putting it in my accountability group in Mighty Networks. And I’m like, here’s what I had ladies. I love it, Dana. I love it because this is it. Ladies diets don’t work because 99% of the population, we can’t live on just protein and veggies. Like we, we want different foods. We want carbs. We want to enjoy a cupcake. We want to enjoy pizza on a Friday night with our families.

You have to lose weight in a way, in the way that you live, in the way that you know, you don’t have to make separate meals from your family. You don’t have to, you know, bring a little packed box with your special food because you can’t eat what everyone else is eating. That’s not how you live. I’ve done that. Oh my gosh, I have done that. And now that I just was saying that I was like, oh my gosh, I totally have where I brought my own little thing because I was on some, you know, diet. And you know, I was so scared that there were just going to be something at the thing that my mom was hosting that I couldn’t eat. You just don’t have to do that because you can’t, you can’t do that. You can’t live that way. And then what happens is you just gain it back. We’ve all done it over and over and over again.

Sharon, my love. Thank you Dana. Sharon introduce yourself. Hi ladies. I’m Sharon. I’m one of the mentors with Transform. I have been with Transform, going on two years. How I discovered Shannan, I was scrolling through Facebook. I had been up and down on the diet roller coaster for at least 40 years. I was this chunky kid who always tried to fit in, was tormented, teased. So I made my whole life around pleasing others, hoping they would like me because I had this extra weight.

It didn’t matter how much I did or how much I pleased anybody else I didn’t please me. So I covered up my feelings with food. I always went right back to that, you know, bag of chips or bag of cookies. So when I discovered Transform, I was at my lowest low. I was like, I had done all the diets.

I’m like, I’m done. So I sat in on one of Shannan’s lives and I said, Hmm, this is different. I’m going to take a leap of faith. And in the beginning, I’m like this isn’t going to work. There’s that way. And then once I started really listening and started writing my realistic plan and digging into the tools, I realized this, this can work. This is, I’m not restricted on foods. I don’t have to follow a certain plan. And I’m in a community of beautiful, amazing women who love and support me no matter what, no matter what I look like, no matter how much weight I have on my body, how much I’ve lost, how quickly I’ve lost it.

I’m just awestruck. Shannan mentioned the Unstoppable Live, and funny thing was, is that I had bought these frosted animal crackers and I loved them. And I used to eat the whole bag. And when I had bought the, and my boyfriend, Tom was eating them and I’m thinking, oh, I’m just gonna have a few, a thought, come in to my mind. That’s okay. You have a few, you know, when you eat that, you’re not going to eat just a few. You’re going to put all the weight back on. And I was like, no, no, no. So I was like, oh, okay. Okay. So I come on and Shannan coached me through it.

And the next day I put the animal crackers on my plan. I ate a few of them and I’m like, Hmm, I don’t like them. They didn’t. The initial first taste was like, oh, they’re okay. They’re nothing to write home about. Now my new thought is food does not control me. I control me. I love that thought. Yeah, because for so long, it’s like, I was always like the little engine that could, I think I can. I think I can. I think I can. Now I know I can. I have lost 126 pounds and I’ve kept it all since October of 2020. Wow. That’s awesome Sharon. I love that. I love to hear the second part because the last time I talked to Sharon,

I was coaching her about these animal crackers. You ladies know we’ve all had them, the little circus, animal pink and white crackers. And one of the things that, one of the tools that  I teach in Transform is about how to kind of really slow down and pay attention. You know, ladies, we always say we love food, but yet, most of the times when we’re not even paying attention to what we’re eating, we’re not even enjoying it. We’re not even tasting what it tastes like. We’re just kind of engulfing it while we’re sitting in the car, driving our kids to practice or work, on the way to work. Or we’re standing at the kitchen counter while we’re on our phones. We’re not even paying attention.

And so part of the process is just slowing down, coming into awareness and seeing if you really like it. And there have been foods that even myself that I’ve encountered that I thought were so good. And then as soon as I slowed down, I was like, okay, that’s not really that good. And I kind of challenged Sharon. I was like, just slow down and tell me what you think about those animal crackers. Because you know, sometimes we, when we really taste something, we’re like, yeah, that doesn’t taste that good, actually. So Sharon, I’m glad that you did that.

So I want to talk about ladies or ladies out there. And just so you ladies know, I’m going to ask all the ladies at the very end to share one tip that has really helped them lose weight. All these ladies have lost weight, but as you kind of heard through their stories, weight loss really has been kind of, we have this motto in Transform the cherry on top, because we have experienced diet culture, diet trauma, we have this fear of starting something new. We have this fear of failure. And what, how that shows up is we tell ourselves we don’t have time.

This isn’t the right time. I don’t have time for myself. I’m barely getting by. And so I want to ask you ladies, because you know, you, ladies lead very busy lives. You work, you do volunteer, you do all sorts of things. You have families, all sorts of things. And so I want to ask you about the time and what you would tell a lady who is saying, it’s not the right time, or this is just, I’m too busy for this. So Deb, I’m going to start with you. What advice would you give to a lady who is just like, I’m struggling right now with time, and my life is so busy and I’m underwater, what would you say? You are a corporate director and you lead a very busy life and you have a side gig. You’re a mentor and you help ladies and all the things. So Deb, come talk to us.

Yeah, I would say, I think the biggest thing for me is one of the things you had said to me before was is feeling that in your body about when you’re hungry. And I was spending a lot of time eating and I didn’t realize how much time I was spending eating that I actually, now that I don’t eat, like every time I go downstairs or every time, like, I don’t know, like I breathe, right. There’s, I can now actually I have more time because I’m planning, there’s no drama. I’m not standing in the middle of the kitchen, just doing circles between the pantry and the refrigerator and the cabinets and going, what am I going to eat? What am I going to eat now? And spending all this time that I actually have more time. I freed up time. And not only that, it’s the mind drama in my head because in the, like I do my plan in the morning and I plan what I’m going to eat that day. And so there’s no drama around anything.

There’s no, again, standing around like I do my meal, like I do meal planning on Sunday, just so I have a board in the kitchen and we can see like, what nights I have Transform and what are all the other things going on in our lives and then what we’re going to have for dinner. And so that way, like I can do the grocery shopping and everything’s super easy and we don’t stand there going, well, I know we were going to make this for dinner, but you know what, why don’t we just order this instead or do this? And so not only do I save time, we’ve saved a ton of money just by not ordering food out because you start realizing that some of that food just doesn’t taste that good.

Like when you really slow down and taste it, not only does it not taste good, it feels terrible in your tummy. And so like, why eat it? Like why eat something that doesn’t make you feel good? Yeah. Yeah. No, I love that. Kelly. Thank you, Deb. What would you say about time and finding the time? Because we always say it’s never the right time, right? We’ll put it off. We’ll start tomorrow.

Yeah, for me, I think it’s been the saying that you have is this is going to be the quickest time of losing weight, it’s going to be the last time. I’ve always liked that saying. For me as far as time and kind of being on the fence. Should I do it? Should I not? So many times I’ve been on a diet and I think, I dunno if it was Yvette or Deb that said that we’re looking for somebody else outside of us to figure out the weight issue that I’m having and giving yourself the time, putting yourself first. I mean, I’m a mom, I’m a grandma. I’m a  middle child who mediates everything and everybody, and to just give yourself 10 minutes a day, this program does not, you can pick and choose. It’s like a university of your own weight loss, your own, you know, growth about how you want to show up.

We always, you know, women and especially we put ourselves last on the list. I’ll get to me, you know, running the kids around, going to appointments, helping your sisters, helping your friends. One thing to do for yourself. One call, one, you know, five minutes a day of setting up your plan. I’ve just seen so many ladies just struggle with putting themselves first in their lives. That’s wasted so much time. And just coming back into yourself, we lose ourselves because we are sending out so much energy and effort to everybody else that we’re depleted and exhausted.

And you know, it’s just a beautiful way to come back to yourself, even if it’s just five minutes a day. Mm. Yeah. I love that Kelly, because it doesn’t, you know, I really honestly just think it’s an excuse. I think it’s something that we tell ourselves, because again, we have this fear of failure. We have this fear that what if this doesn’t work?


What if I’m just always going to be heavy? What if I just, you know, I try this and then you know, it doesn’t work. And you know, ladies, I want you, if you’re listening right now to start this work today, I do. You can right now, whether Transforms open or not, if you can, you know, wherever, whenever you’re listening to this, because this work is the work of your life and you are so worth this work. You are so worth learning how to show up for yourself a little tiny step at a time. We all have busy lives. We all have, you know, huge commitments in our lives. And this is the thing that I’ve found.

The more that I have spent time on myself, the more that I have learned how to show up for myself, I actually show up better for everyone else in my life. I show up better for my family, my friends, the people I work with. And ultimately, I show up better for me. That just radiates to everyone else who’s around me. And there’s another kind of thing that I think ladies really struggle with is, you know, investing in themselves, investing, you know, money in themselves, spending money on themselves for another weight loss program. Because ladies, I bet every lady in Transform and all the ladies listening, we have spent thousands and thousands and thousands of dollars on pills, shakes, programs, you know, the surgeries, you know, all the things, we just have, DVDs, you know, booty burn. I don’t know, all the things, we have just done it.

And we have this fear of like, you know, I’ll have ladies say, well, I don’t want to tell my husband, right? Like, I’m doing this one more time. Just one more time. Right. And I think, because again, we’ve just been so traumatized by diet culture, but what I teach, what I coach isn’t diets. And so I would love Yvette, I’m going to ask you to, you know, when you decided to invest in yourself in this what like got you over the hump of investing yourself one more time. For me, it was, it was shame around it.

Like if I keep putting money in and I don’t have any results to be, that felt very shameful or that I have failed again. Right. So I didn’t want, I felt like if I try this again and I fail, like this is it, I’m done. It’s over. But over time for me really the investment, it’s not the money. It’s the time.

And being able to, you know, we talk about putting yourself first and knowing that what I have that is most valuable to me is time. And being able to commit that time here, you know, it has been so valuable because in the past, like I’m a sleeper. Like I’m just let’s just sleep, right? Like, what’s your hobby. I nap.

I’m pretty good at it. But I used to like set my alarm in the morning for the last possible minute. I could wake up and be on time. And then I would snooze a few times after that. And now for the past year, every morning I get up at 6:30 or six. I transfer my plan from the night before I do some reflection work.

I write down my weight and how much I slept. I meditate for 10 minutes. And that is so different. And it very rarely, except for maybe this morning, coming back from Phoenix Unstoppable, I slept in a little bit today, but other than like, I will bounce out of bed. I’m up and I’m doing it. I get my coffee, I have my little routine. And I love it. I love being able to take that time. And it’s just for me. And I get my head straight for the day and it’s been like, for me that’s a huge change and being more intentional about it. That’s where, you know, in terms of my commitment, my time I have the time I have the time, I just need to find it and, and make, and put it towards myself and not, you know, binge watching and like, there’s time. I just need to put the time in the right place. I can’t say I don’t have time. I do. Yeah. Yeah, we do. Right.

We do have time and we get to choose. You know, ladies, we give our control away. We give our power away. We say, we don’t have time. We don’t have the money. We don’t have the energy. We don’t have the resources. We’re not capable. I mean, we could, I could go on and on and on. And we do. And when we start to take our power back, when we start to really live in this beauty of just showing up for ourselves, we, you know, we talk about it a lot, but boy, there’s so much power. And again, it’s just these little bits of time, these little bits of time where you just almost come back home to yourself.

So Dana, I want to ask you, because you know, when you were thinking about investing in Transform and spending money in Transform, and you know, I know ladies struggle with that. They really do because we just spent, so we wasted so much money. I mean, honestly we have, and I just want to know what kind of got you over the hump with it. For me, I am like, I’m looking at my nightstand right now, Shannan, where I had my last, my last little diet plan, the metabolic diet plan. I didn’t even want to tell my husband about it. I hit it. It’s still in my nightstand. So then when I joined you guys, you know, there was the fee to join and then it was going to be a monthly fee and we just sat down and I said, look, I really feel like this is the last thing. I, I just really want to try this. I think it could be different. And my husband said, go for it. Like if you feel that strongly about it, just go ahead and do it. He goes, look, you know, let’s take a chance. You know, that’s what I did.


I just, I took a chance. I saw you guys. I did the challenge and I thought I’m going to spend the money. I’m just, I’m going to do it. I’ve spent money from every other diet plan. Like you’ve said hundreds, hundreds of dollars to join, you know, money every week going for my little session, all the little foods and stuff that they want you to drink and, you know, buy from them. And I thought, I’m just going to do this. I’m going to do it and invest in myself. And honestly, by now, you know, the other plans I’d already fallen back off track, you know, like months in, you know, here I am a year later, I’m honestly like every, like I weigh myself every day.

I’m still like at my 34 pound loss. I’m like, this is like, I don’t mind investing in myself because I see that it’s working, changing my thoughts. I’m, you know, I have this community that supports me. So to me, that initial, just going in and going for it was, was all I did. And I took a chance on you. And I’m just so happy that you were it. You were what helped. Ooh. How lucky am I? How lucky are we Dana? I’m so happy. I tell you ladies, I’m so happy that you took a chance on me to be honest and trusted me in your journey. I take that really seriously. And you know, I love you ladies.

And I think about you and I want the best for you. And I know how difficult it is to invest your time, your resources, your energy, your emotional energy into something. And you know, you ladies just keep showing up over and over and over again. And it is truly amazing to watch.  Sharon when you were very first started ,I remember, you know, I always tell ladies, I always remember the first email Sharon wrote me because she sent me this picture of this beautiful picture of herself. And you know, it was her, it’s her before picture now, it was her starting picture when she joined Transform. And you know, Sharon, when you decided that you were going to invest in yourself, time and money, what kind of helped you make that decision? It made me feel like a human being. You actually made me feel like a person that mattered.  For so long, treading along with all the different diet plans, all that you all you were was this number or you know, or whatever money you could give them. You never, you didn’t bond with anybody.

You had no friendship, no love, no anything. It was like auto-pilot and you just plodded along and you were on your own. It was so lonely, and discovering you, you made me feel loved. I hadn’t felt that from anybody in a weight loss program forever. Discovering all these beautiful ladies and, and your team, your family, who they’re just amazing. They’re all just amazing, amazing people. What I would tell the ladies, it’s like ask yourself when is the right time? Because if you put that off, like I did for so long, you’re just going to keep plodding along and you’re not going to be happy. You’re spending all your life trying to make others happy and show yourself some love.

Show yourself some love. That’s what I find that with this program, all the ladies love me and I love them. And I show myself love. I have learned to love myself again. And I’ve found my smile again. Yes, you did my love. Yes you did. Oh, you know, you said something. It made me, I, I felt a lot of emotion when you said it, that you matter. Ladies, we have just put ourselves like on these back burners where we think we don’t matter. We just are moseying along in these autopilot modes and, you know, Sharon said it, pleasing everyone else, doing all the things, feeling so much pain and frustration and shame, and, you know, regret, regret that, you know, we didn’t do this or we didn’t do that or how, you know, all the things.

And I just want to say that you matter, and that you’re worthy and that, you know, you are loved. And it does really start with learning how to show up and learning how to take baby steps towards loving yourself. So, ladies, I want to go around, I want to ask each one of you if you could share one piece of advice, a tip, a tool, any inspiration that you would like to leave all of these ladies who are listening to you today.

So I want to start with Kelly. I think for me, the biggest tip or tool would be to drop the perfectionism for yourself. And you know, everybody’s always said that to me, oh, don’t put, you know, so much expectation on yourself, but it’s showing up for yourself in this program to release that fear, fear that I’m not going to be perfect, fear that they’re not going to accept me, fear that this program is not going to work for me. And every time that I’ve pushed through my fear in this program and challenged myself, it’s a way to all of my hopes and dreams. I mean, I was on autopilot. I was stagnating. I had no dreams and aspirations. I was just waiting to retire. So just drop the perfectionistic hat and just, you know, put yourself first and show up. It’s, it’s one of those things where if you show yourself that love, that attention, then you’ll be able to, you know, really like, like we said, in our, in our big conference, you know, we’re unstoppable. You can do whatever you want, be in the body that you love and just be your authentic self.

Yeah. Ooh. I love it. I have to say Kelly. I was watching a video today that I had taken of you. Actually, it was the sweetest video because it was when Laurie was getting her photo shoot during Unstoppable Live and you were dancing, Yvette was laughing. And I just looked at both of you like these two women, right in this moment, it feels so beautiful. And what a difference this work and how transformative this work is. Oh, so good.

Okay. Yvette one tip tool. Thank you, Kelly. It’s, it’s funny that you mentioned the photo shoots because Shannan, I was with you a couple of years ago at a different event, and everyone was like getting pictures with you. And I disappeared. I wanted no record that I was at the event because to me that was just that I’m not going to lose. And people are like, well, you were there. Why? Right. So I stayed, I flew under the radar. Last week when we were together, I thought I was on America’s next top model. I’m quite, I’m quite certain, but I was just, I was ready and it, and I was okay with just having fun and just be in the moment. And that was very different for me. And these tools that you teach, you know, I feel like there’s many times when I have been present in places where in the past I would not, I would be there, but I was not present. You know, my, my bonus daughter got married recently and you helped me really think about what did I want to feel in that moment?

And where did I, you know, how did I want to show up for myself and for her? And it was such a beautiful event. I didn’t think, I didn’t think about myself. I wasn’t worried about, oh, do I look like I have weight to lose? That’s okay. But I’m still beautiful. And I’m here in this moment and I’m enjoying it. You know, one of the things that has really stuck with me in this work is working on shame and feeling like there are things that my story that I should feel shame around and I don’t, I don’t anymore. I see it differently. And, and having shame, you know, around a lot of things, but having shame around weight, you know, you try to fly under the radar. You don’t, I don’t want people looking at me or knowing that I’m struggling when clearly I’m carrying extra weight. And, you know, in the last couple of months, I have been very vocal and honest about the work that I’m doing, sharing it in forums with a lot of people.

And I’m okay with that. I am proud of where, where I’m at, and I’m proud of the work that I’m doing. And I’m proud to share that with others, because maybe they can benefit from it too. One of the things that you said to me that has stuck with me is you’re not going to play small with me, right? You tell me you’re not doing that. We’re not playing small. And that thought has helped me to look to my future and what could I do? Where could I be? And that’s not something that, you know, in the past I would’ve done. So I think the most important thing to lean in for me has been the mindset work and the other things will come. The weight loss will come. When I focus on my thoughts and creating, you know, my future and creating where I want to be, and what I want to do with this big, beautiful life has, has changed everything. So thank you. Oh, I mean puddles. I just, you now, ladies, if you are listening, I just, you are getting such gifts today with these five beautiful women.

The transformation that they’ve gone through, what they continue to do, their future selves. I can’t even imagine. I can imagine actually what they are going to give this world because of the work that they’re doing on themselves and how all of them help and serve other women. And they are just such inspirations. Oh, thank you, Yvette.

Deb. My love. I, You know for me, ever since I was a little kid, I struggled with my weight and for somebody who, I mean, I could probably be a power eater. Like I could eat, eat, eat, and that, you know, I’ve been up and down, like, you know, sort of the weight dial, if you will. And all the weights, right. From zero, probably from size zero to upwards of 16, but really probably should have been wearing 18 and have been up and down that, and, you know, really realizing for this time, like, no matter what happens in my life right now, good or bad, I have the tools to live and understand how I can not eat my way out of a problem.

Because for so many years, that’s what I did. I buffered and buffered with food. And when I did lose the weight years ago, I would immediately start gaining it back again because I didn’t know, things weren’t magically solved just because I got to that weight, you know, the world just didn’t, you know, it, wasn’t all sunshine and rainbows.

And I didn’t know how to deal with the problems I was still faced with and the thoughts in my head. And now, no matter what happens, I know I have the tools and if I can’t bear it on my own, then I reach out to you and you tell me to stop my way out of the puddle. Right? Like, I know I have you, if I can’t stop my own way out of the puddle, that I can say a few words to you. And you’re like, oh boy, we’re getting you out of that puddle. I know exactly what to say to you. And, you know, it was like at the Unstoppable Live thing, but just a few words from you.

Like I’ve had the most amazing past couple of days of just an aha moment of not only was I buffering with food, but this buffer would noise. Right? The buffering with the audible and the podcast. And not that I don’t love all these things. I love these, but I was doing it constantly with not even that 10 minutes a day, like I was, I was even listening to guided meditations. Right. So, I mean, I wasn’t even taking 10 minutes a day for some peace and quiet and a few words from you. Like, it was just like all I needed to hear of like, oh my God, like, it’s another tool that you gave me. And didn’t even probably realize what,

how, how much it meant to me. But again, it’s those moments of no matter what, if I get stuck, I know how to get myself unstuck now, whereas before I would’ve never been able to do that. And with this program, like, honestly, it’s something that I know for the rest of my life I can live with.

I can do. And this community of beautiful women that you’ve created is unreal. It is just support. Like, you know, I think someone else mentioned it. We’ve all been to those meetings. We’ve all sat in the room. And I can’t tell you how many times I sat at the chair and looked around, nobody smiled. Everybody was miserable. And then I got up and walked out again. Nobody talked to me except to yell at me that I didn’t lose enough weight that week. Right? Like there was never any positive encouragement or reinforcement. And this community is just something just pure amazement. So thank you. You’re welcome,

Deb. Yes. We’ve all been to those meetings where we had so much shame because we know you’re just, right, before you hand your little card over and then you get ready to step out, you’re like telling the leader, like, I’m so sorry. Like, you know, I kinda overate this week and I had a birthday, so, and you’re like, and you know, of course she didn’t care. Right. She, she probably had no judgment. I’m sure. But like right there, it was just so much shame and so much like, oh, and then, you know, this community of women, you know, I’m an introvert. I really am. I’m an introvert. I think sometimes people think it’s hard to believe, but I really am. I, I get gain energy in times by myself. And, you know, even if you’re an introvert, we have plenty of them, this community, you’ll still fine, whether you’re a lurker or whether you’re very active in the community, you’ll find so much inspiration and so much support. And I am just so proud of what we’ve created in this community and so proud of each lady who contributes to it and who just, the support and love. You’re right Deb. I’ve never seen anything like it never, ever.

And I’m so, so proud of it. Okay. Dana, Dana. I like the thought I’m in control of my thoughts and how I react to them. Because honestly, I felt like, and I’ve told the ladies this, I feel like I was sitting in a room that was completely dark Shannan, it was black. You poked your little head through the door.

You’re pretty little face and turned on the light switch and said, come on, girl, I’ll show you. This is what you need to be doing. And that’s like, when you’re, when you’re in it, you just don’t know, you don’t know what’s happening. You don’t know how to get out of it. And then you come along and you say, Hey, look it here. You know, just because you have a thought, doesn’t make a true. And you’re just like, what does this mean? I mean, like, I feel like you have turned on this light and now I’m seeing things for the first time. I’m, I’m better with my relationships. I’m better with how I talk to people and how I treat myself and how, how I talk to myself. I mean, it’s just been a really life-changing experience. And I’m just doing these things that you teach us, and everything gets so much better as a result of that. Hmm. I love that. Dana. I liked the visual of me popping my head in.

Yes. I remember it through my own work, having these ahas. And I think all of us will continue over and over. As all of us are doing this work and all of us are learning and it is like the light switch keeps coming on. It just keeps coming on and it keeps getting brighter and brighter. And not only is it bright, but it’s filled with love. You know, ladies, I think all the work that you’re doing on yourself, the most important work that you’re doing is on learning how to love yourself, learning how to really, truly love that body and to stop being at war with the body, war with yourself, and really starting to talk to yourself with love and kindness like you would do for anyone else.

So good. Sharon, my love. What advice would you give for the ladies? I would say, I would tell all the ladies show up as your you, as your true self, just be you and let your light shine. Shine as bright as it can be, because you should not be like as that, the movie Dirty Dancing, Baby in the corner. No, you’re not Baby. You’re not Baby in the corner. You be out there shining doing everything you can. You’re working, you have done the hard things. You do hard things, Have a little belief in yourself and you can do it. You’re unstoppable. Women are Unstoppable. I love it, Sharon.

I love you ladies. I am so grateful and truly, all of the ladies who are listening and you know, these ladies are gifts. They’re gifts to me and gifts to the world. And each one of them have this very special journey that they’re on. And they’re women just like you, just like me. We’re just women. We all have our stories. We’ve all had these, this journey. We’ve had pain and trauma and hard times and all the things. As you go and you start one small step at a time and you start to learn this work what you realize is that all along, you’ve just been enough and all along, you’ve been worthy and all along somewhere inside of you has been that little girl, that little sweet, sweet girl, she’s been there and she’s just guiding you and she’s showing you the way. So we have this amazing, amazing experience that is coming up.

So if you’re listening to the podcast before August 27th, you want to get in, there is a five-day Transform BootCamp, and it’s the first time that I’ve ever done anything like this, where I am going to coach and teach. And it is a five-day coaching experience. You want to get in. You can go to bflycoaching.com/BC, B as in boot, C as in camp, learn all about it. And it’s just kind of a way that you can experience some of what these ladies have experienced through coaching. And I’m going to teach and coach for five days straight.

It is going to be life-changing. It is going to be amazing. And so you do not want to miss out. And so make sure that you register for that. All right my love. Bye for now.

Thank you for listening to this episode of Weight Loss for Successful Women. If you love what you heard today and want to learn more, come on over to bflycoaching.com. See you next week.

Facebook Live #56: Breakthrough in Weight Loss

We are coming up on the hundredth podcast. Can you even believe it? We are doing a super fun contest this month. All you have to is leave a review on iTunes or on Apple. Even if you don’t have an iPhone you can leave a review. You can actually do it on the computer. Go to bflycoaching.com/fun100. The drawing will be on August 26th. Everyone who submitted a review will be entered. I will be giving away 2 baskets of my favorite things.

Join me in this episode as I dive deep into how to have break throughs in weight loss. Everything that I teach is really so that you can lose weight for the last time, and you can do it in way that you can always do, so you’re not on this perpetual diet roller coaster.

Most humans, we buffer. We don’t want to feel all those feelings. We just push them down and we do that with food, over working, over exercising, over shopping. We do all the things to get our mind off of what is really happening.

I can show you how to lose weight for the last time that feels like love, where you can enjoy the foods you love. No diets here. Diets are trauma. I believe the diet culture has traumatized us. And I am absolutely not for any of that. So you won’t find any of that here.

Let me show you another way. How you can learn how to believe new things, how to become aware of your thoughts. How to become aware of why you are struggling to lose weight. Why it feels like it is impossible. These are just old records playing in the back of our brain.

Coaching totally changed my weight loss journey. It transformed my life. By coming into awareness I started having these break through moments. There is no magical pill or potion.

A weight loss coach just helps you uncover all those old diet beliefs so that you can live your best life. You can move forward instead of staying stuck. You can experience your breakthrough AHA moments.

At the very last week of the month, it starts on the 28th, we are doing Transform BootCamp. This is open to the public. It is the very first time ever in the history of Transform, the history of me coaching, that I have ever opened up coaching, where I am going to do a five-day coaching experience where I’m going to teach, I am going to coach, I am going to do all things weight loss. We are going to have breakthroughs. Go to bflycoaching.com/BC.

If you love this work and want to go deeper, take my free course, where I share my experience and the 3 tools that I used to get off the diet roller coaster. All you have to do is click here to learn more!

What You’ll Discover:

  • How to lose weight that feels like freedom
  • How the diet culture has traumatized us
  • How weight loss coaching can help you uncover all those diet beliefs and experience your breakthrough aha moments

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Ep #98: When You Don’t Know What You Don’t Know

Ladies, we are almost there, almost to our 100th episode.  We are doing a big giveaway for our 100th episode. When you leave a written review for this podcast on apple or iTunes, you can put yourself into a drawing for a basket of my favorite things. We will draw on 08/26 and I will do the drawing Live on Facebook on my business page bflycoaching. Don’t have an iPhone, no worries, I have instructions on how to create an apple ID, so you can leave a review on iTunes. Go to bflycoaching.com/fun100.

I have been thinking about this concept “You don’t know what you don’t know.”  What it means is that if you don’t have the knowledge or experience, you don’t know something, and you don’t know what you don’t know.

How this relates to weight loss is that we think we “should” know what we need to do. We have tried all the diets, restricting, counting points, calories, low-fat, no sugar, all the things that keep us stuck on the diet roller coaster. But, you just don’t know what you don’t know.

This episode I dive deep into how to lose weight by eating foods you enjoy. How to feel your feelings, handle your urges.  No restricting, counting calories, or points. Food will become the least interesting thing in your life.  Join me to learn how start to know what you don’t know.

And if you are ready to learn what you don’t know and experience something different sign up for Transform BootCamp – this is a 5-day coaching experience that can change everything for you. Sign-up at bflycoaching.com/BC   If you are in Transform WLP you do not need to sign up, you are already in.

In today’s episode, you will discover:

  • How you don’t know what you don’t know
  • How food will become the least interesting thing in your life
  • How it will take going into unchartered territory to lose weight for the last time

Transformational questions:

  1. What resistance is coming up for you when you think about changing your mindset or doing something different?
  2. What if you went all in on learning something different and exploring what you don’t know, what is the 1 thing you would start with?

Do you want to learn more about my tools – take my free course. You can go to bflycoaching.com/ready to take it and learn the fundamentals of what I teach, tools that can help you start to lose weight for the last time.

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You are listening to the Weight Loss for Successful Women podcast with Shannan Christiansen episode number 98. Welcome to Weight Loss for Successful Women, a podcast for women who are ready to break the diet cycle and end their struggle with weight for good. Here’s your host, fortune 100 executive, and certified life coach, Shannan Christiansen.

Hello love. So happy to be back with you. I have to tell you love, one thing that I have learned in my life journey, so far, is that I don’t know what I don’t know. Today we’re going to dive into this and why it can keep us on the diet rollercoaster. And if you are loving this show, please rate and review the show. Also make sure you subscribe so I’m in your list every Wednesday morning. And I don’t want you to forget we’re doing a biag giveaway. We’re almost there, almost a hundred episodes. When you leave a written review for this podcast on Apple or iTunes, you can put yourself into a drawing for a basket of my favorite things. So go to bflycoaching.com/fun100 to get all the details.

Oh love, our weather has been so nice. A little crazy for August actually. We’ve had some rain and now our temps are in the low one hundreds, high nineties. It’s amazing.  I will take it. We have some humidity, but it has been nice walking in the morning with the cooler temperatures. I will take this all day. Now, I hope it doesn’t mean we’re going to have a super cold winter, but ah, I can’t beat it for August.

I’ve been thinking about this concept, you don’t know what you don’t know. What it means is that if you don’t have the knowledge or experience, you don’t know something and you don’t know that you don’t know. Let me give you an example and how this relates to weight loss. When I was on the diet roller coaster, I did not know how it felt to not be obsessed about food. I was always thinking about it, about my next meal, about what sweet thing I was going to go buy and eat. It was on my mind a lot. I would hear people say, “I forgot to eat,” And I was like, I don’t understand that. It made no sense to me at the time because I did not know what I did not know.

See, we believe that we know how to lose weight because we think we should know. We’ve tried all the things.  Yes, you might know some, but love, you don’t know what you don’t know. See, I now know what it’s like to forget about food. Forget about eating, for it to not be the most important thing. But I didn’t have the experience or understanding of it before.  We have a pool, and we’ve lived in this house for a little over two years and a couple of months ago, the grandbabies were over and they wanted to go swimming and it was night, and I thought it was pretty dark out there. Love, I had no idea that we had lights in our pool. I didn’t. The switch was hidden.

And I had no idea until Paul went over and he just switched them on. I was like, whoa, these are pretty cool. And I was thinking like, why have we not used them before? But again, I didn’t even know we had them. Another example I have of this is when I was a young leader. Oh boy. I thought I knew the things. I thought I knew how to lead people, connect with them. But I didn’t know what I didn’t know. There was so much learning and growth I needed to do, so much experience that I did not have. But again, I didn’t know what I didn’t know. I remember applying for this job and not getting it. I thought I was ready, but I wasn’t. I didn’t know that I wasn’t ready, but my mentor, those who had more experience, they knew. This is so important and losing weight for the last time. See your brain has been filled with years of diet mentality. You’ve been told that a quick fix is the way. Your brain wants it to be easy. You think that if you don’t lose weight fast, then you’re failing. You believe if you don’t restrict and follow some “healthy plan” then you’re not doing it right. Because that maybe is the experience that you’ve had. Maybe you’ve lost some weight and you lost it by restricting, cutting out food groups, you know, restricting your calories, over exercising. So your experience is I have to cut out food groups. I have to restrict to lose weight.

That is what you know. But love, you don’t know what you don’t know. I can tell you that you can lose weight by eating foods you enjoy, that you can learn to feel feelings and not push them down, that you can handle urges to overeat, that food can be the least interesting thing about your life. But if you don’t have that experience yet, then you don’t know what you don’t know.

It can feel like it can’t happen for you. Somewhere in your brain, you don’t believe me. I see this with clients when I’m coaching them, I can almost see or hear their brain freeze up. When they start to have these epiphanies when they start to know what they don’t know. If you want to lose weight for the last time, you must do something different than you ever have.

You have to go into unchartered territory, you have to gain knowledge and experience that you don’t have today. When I started this journey of coaching and changing my mindset, I had no idea what was in front of me, the work, the failures, but love, it is the work of my life. Because of the results. The experience of my life is richer. I feel better. Have more energy, have amazing experiences. I am living my best life in a body that I love. And love, I want that for you.

The transformational questions are one, what resistance is coming up for you when you think about changing your mindset or doing something different? And number two, what if you went all in on learning something different and exploring what you don’t know? What is the one thing you would start with?

And if you’re ready to learn what you don’t know and experience something different sign up for Transform BootCamp. This is a five-day coaching experience that can change everything for you. Sign up at bflycoaching.com/BC, B as in boy, C as in camp. And if you’re in Transform Weight Loss program, no worries love, I got you. You don’t need to sign up. All right my loves. Bye for now.

Thank you for listening to this episode of Weight Loss for Successful Women. If you love what you heard today and want to learn more, come on over to bflycoaching.com. See you next week.

Ep #97: Are You Unmotivated in Weight Loss?

I have been thinking about ladies and how amazing they are. How they have these stories. We have never been taught how to manage our minds. Coaching, hands down has been the most impactful tool that has helped me achieve goals and dreams. A life coach is for your mindset. Have you ever been coached? Ready to dip your toe in —- Go to bflycoaching.com/BC to sign up for the Transform BootCamp. This Boot Camp is going to be Amazing!  The Boot Camp will Begin on August 28th.

Do you ever feel unmotivated in weight loss? Like you just don’t want to do it, you don’t want to show up for yourself. You don’t even want to think about it anymore.

We all do hard things, have done hard things. When we have success we do not even remember the hard part of achieving it.

Join me in this episode as I talk about the difference between achieving your goals or not – doing things even when you don’t want to, when you are unmotivated, uninspired.

It does not take motivation, but momentum.  Join me in this episode as I dive into how to create momentum. I will give you 3 learning tools to lead you to success in your weight loss.

And ladies, we are doing a big giveaway for our 100th episode. When you leave a written review for this podcast on apple or iTunes, you can put yourself into a drawing for a basket of my favorite things. We will draw on 08/26 and I will do the drawing Live on Facebook on my business page bflycoaching. Don’t have an iPhone, no worries, I have instructions on how to create an apple ID, so you can leave a review on iTunes. Go to bflycoaching.com/fun100

And if you want to learn more about my tools – take my free course. You can go to bflycoaching.com/ready to take it and learn the fundamentals of what I teach, tools that can help you start to lose weight.

In today’s episode, you will discover:

  • You do not need motivation to lose weight
  • How we forget the hard in our success
  • How momentum leads to weight loss success

Transformational questions:

  1. What is keeping you stuck right now – what thoughts are driving it?
  2. How can you build momentum?

Do you want to learn more about my tools – take my free course. You can go to bflycoaching.com/ready to take it and learn the fundamentals of what I teach, tools that can help you start to lose weight for the last time.

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You are listening to the Weight Loss for Successful Women podcast with Shannan Christiansen episode number 97. Welcome to Weight Loss for Successful Women, a podcast for women who are ready to break the diet cycle and end their struggle with weight for good. Here’s your host, fortune 100 executive, and certified life coach, Shannan Christiansen.

Hello love. So happy to be back with you. Are you feeling a little uninspired, maybe a little unmotivated, and maybe you just don’t want to think about your weight anymore. If you’re feeling this way, stay tuned because I’m going to share some tips on what to do. And you know, my love, if you are loving this show please rate and review the show. Also make sure that you subscribe so I’m in your list every Wednesday morning.

And ladies, we are doing a big giveaway for our hundredth episode. When you leave a written review for this podcast on Apple or iTunes, you can put yourself into a drawing for a basket of my favorite things. I mean, it’s going to be super amazing. We will draw live on August 26 on Facebook, on my business page BFLY Coaching. And are you worried I don’t have an iPhone. No worries. I have instructions on how to leave a review on iTunes, even if you don’t have an iPhone. It’s super simple. So all you do is go to bflycoaching.com/fun100. Oh, so good.

Love, we just finished the five-day challenge and I love the challenges. I do them frequently, and I just love them. I love meeting women, hearing their stories, and watching them have these aha moments where they start to believe again, believe in themselves again. It is one of my favorite things. I have been thinking about ladies, you know I always do, and how amazing we are as women and how you and other women have these stories.

I mean love, you’ve done some hard things. You’ve been through a lot. You have a story. We have been taught a lot of things in our lives, but mostly we were never taught how to manage our mind. How do we even start to change our thoughts and beliefs, even how to become aware of what’s even going on in our brain.

Our subconscious has a lot of stuff going on and we live in autopilot most of the time. This is just how we’re wired. And this is where coaching comes into play. Coaching, hands down, has been the most impactful tool that has helped me achieve goals and dreams. See, we don’t think twice about athletics and even leaders in companies having coaches.

The Olympics are going on right now and we would never see an athlete show up to the Olympics without a coach. I mean, it just would never happen. See, athletes need someone to show them things that they can’t see, show them how to improve and cheer them on. A life coach is that for your mindset.

See, what is missing in all the diets, why they don’t work, is because coaching for the most part is not part of them. Real coaching with a trained coach who knows how to ask you questions, give you feedback, offer ideas and cheer you on. I know most of my listeners to this podcast may have never seen coaching, never watched it, or even been coached themselves. So I am doing something I have never done before.

Never, in the history of the history. I am hosting the Transform BootCamp. This is not your typical boot camp. This is a mindset boot camp. This is a five-day experience where you will be able to watch ladies be coached, and you’ll also be able to be coached by me. Yes, yours truly. I am also going to teach my fundamentals.

So for five days, I am going to teach and coach. You will leave this boot camp understanding how to lose weight for the last time and how to start to change your mindset so you can lose weight for the very last time, live your very best life in a body that you love. So have you ever been coached? If not, or maybe you have a little bit, but you’re ready to really dip your toe in, go to bflycoaching.com/BC, B as in boot, C as in camp to sign up. This boot camp is going to be amazing. The bootcamp is going to start on August 28th, so you will want to get signed up well before then. Ooh, so good.

So I was listening to this podcast from Russell Brunson. He is a business expert. Honestly, he is really successful in the business world and I love listening to him for business, but in one of his recent episodes, he had received a question from one of his listeners about what do you do when you feel uninspired? It reminded me of how we can feel this in weight loss. We can feel unmotivated.

We don’t want to do it. We don’t want to show up for ourselves. We don’t even want to think about it anymore. Russell basically went on to say that mostly he does not feel inspired. This really resonated with me so much because I teach this in Transform. See, somewhere along the way, maybe because of movies, I’m not sure where we learned it, probably in our socialization, we think that we have to be inspired, motivated to do something, to achieve our goals. We think we have these ideas that people who have lots of success are different from ourselves.

I just want to tell you love, we all have a human brain. Lizzie is always trying to pull us back into the cave, trying to keep us the same. And this is the same for all humans. At the core and how our brain is wired we’re not very different. We’re wired pretty similarly. We have a lizard brain. And so this is why I tell you this because you are no different. You can lose weight in a way that feels like love. And for the last time. And I know this because I did it.

And you and me, we’re wired pretty similarly. When I think about all the things that I’ve accomplished, accomplishing them feels amazing. But everything up to that point, well my love, it is hard. See, the difference between achieving your goal and not is doing things when you don’t want to, when you’re unmotivated, uninspired. I can give you dozens and dozens of examples of this in my own life. When I was getting my MBA, the weekly grind of the work was hard, crazy hard. Like there were times that I was like, I don’t know if I am going to be able to do this. Am I smart enough for this. I had all sorts of doubts, but I just kept going. I kept figuring it out. And I received my masters.

Now, when I look back, mostly I remember the success of achieving it. I don’t really remember about all the hard work and grind that went into it. I think about this too when I was in labor with my son, I was in labor for 16 hours. I know some of you ladies can feel me on that. And I did not have any drugs or an epidural.

I know, I was young. I wanted to do it naturally. I had a midwife. I’m pretty sure if I had a baby now, maybe I would say give me the epidural. But at that time I did not. So the 16 hours were tough, I mean, they were really tough. They were painful. But then I held Taylor in my arms and immediately I forgot about the hard, the tough. The pain went away. I remember holding him, feeling love that I had never felt in my whole life. I had so much love for this little human, and thinking, I really had this thought I could do this again right now. I could do this again, because it was such an amazing feeling. I forgot about the hard.

See, we forget about the hard. We forget all the things that we’ve done. All the hard things. We remember the amazingness, the success. This is important to remember because mostly when you’re going after a goal, a dream, you don’t want to do it. You won’t want to do the grind. Shoot, you won’t even want to start. I think about this with my walk every day.

Many days, Lizzie will serve up all the reasons why I should stay in bed or do something else. I just know I won’t be motivated to do it, and I do it anyway. I put my tennis shoes on, I put my hat on and I just get walking. See, when you take a step forward, you are creating momentum. By me putting on my tennis shoes, putting on my hat, I am starting to create momentum.

Kara Loewentheil is one of my peers and she was one of my teachers and she teaches a concept she calls the infinite 1%. Basically, it is based on Newton’s law of motion. The hardest part of doing anything is the first 1%. See, when you go from not moving to moving, the hardest part is getting up. But once you’re in motion, the momentum makes it easier. Have you ever rode a bike? I have. And let me tell you, when you first start pedaling, it’s tough to get it moving, but once you get it going, you get some momentum and it gets easier. The first 1% of losing weight, it feels difficult, learning tools, showing up for yourself, paying attention to your body. But once you start moving forward, you start creating momentum.

So here are some tips. Number one, come into awareness of the thoughts that are keeping you from moving forward. Thoughts like, I don’t have time. I can’t do it. I’m just not motivated today. Number two, decide what you want to believe instead of those other thoughts and take one simple step forward, just one step at a time. And three, understand my love that the first steps will feel the hardest, but once you’re in motion, you’ll gain some momentum. And then when you have a community of support around you, you’ll continue that momentum.

Ooh, it’s so good. Expecting that you will be inspired or motivated to do something, well my love, that is just sabotage. That is how you keep yourself stuck on the diet roller coaster. Because mostly, you won’t be either inspired or motivated, but when you do it anyway, when you don’t feel like it, well, that is where the magic lives.

The transformational questions today are one, what is keeping you stuck right now, and what thoughts are driving it? And number two, how can you start to build some momentum?

And if you want to learn more about my tools, take my free course. You can go to bflycoaching.com/ready to take it and learn the fundamentals of what I teach. Tools that can help you start to lose weight for the very last time. So good. Bye for now love.

Thank you for listening to this episode of weight loss for successful women. If you love what you heard today and want to learn more, come on over to bflycoaching.com. See you next week.