Ep #135: Food Pushers and What to Do

Ep #135: Food Pushers and What to Do

In this episode I want to talk about food pushers and what to do about them.

A “food pusher” is just the other humans who offer us food, who try to convince us to eat the thing.

Listen in to this episode as I dive deep into taking ownership of your weight back, and taking your power back.

No one is responsible for you losing or gaining weight except you.

I will give you a little trick I teach in Transform around the urge of eating it anyway and negotiating with yourself.

You are always in control. You always decide what you are going to eat. If someone offers you food – decide what you want to think about it – something that serves you. Then take the next best action for yourself.

Are you ready to take your power back?

In today’s episode, you will discover:

  • What a “food pusher” is
  • When someone offers you food, it doesn’t mean anything until you have a thought about it
  • If you keep blaming, pushing the ownership to others then you are the victim, and you can’t move forward

Transformational questions/actions:

  1. Who do you believe to be the “food pushers” in your life?
  2. What do you want to believe about it?
  3. Make a decision ahead of time of what you are going to do the next time they offer or bring home something.

If you are not part of Transform Boss, take my free course – go to freebosscourse.com. This will give you an introduction and a workbook to get you started on losing weight for the very last time.

Featured on the Show:

  • Take my free mini course where I teach my fundamentals here
  • Follow me on Instagram!
  • Handling urges – for Transform Bosses, module 2 video #23; if you are not a Boss, listen to podcast episode #3

Full Episode Transcript:

You are listening to the Weight Loss for Successful Women podcast with Shannan Christiansen episode number 135. Welcome to Weight Loss for Successful Women, a podcast for women who are ready to break the diet cycle and end their struggle with weight for good. Here’s your host, fortune 100 executive, and certified life coach, Shannan Christiansen.

Hello Love. So excited to be back with you. Today’s episode, ah, it’s a long time coming. Ladies asked me about this all the time. And so if you’ve ever had a food pusher, you want to listen to this episode. When this episode releases it will be the week of Unstoppable Live. This is my once per year amazing in-person, virtual member only Transform Boss event. And ladies, I am so excited about it. I can’t even, I have been thinking, breathing Unstoppable Live for the last couple of months. My team and I, we have been working and planning and, oh my goodness, I just cannot wait. We have worked really hard this year to make the virtual experience like they’re in the room with us.

 

So I just cannot wait. And then of course, all my in-person ladies, I can’t wait to hug them. I can’t wait to hug and squeeze them. And it is just so exciting. And ladies, if you are not a Boss yet, for sure you want to take my free course so that, you know, again, you can start this work and then I think we’re going to open in June. So you want to be ready. Yeah, June. I can’t remember the date right now, but in June we’re going to open again, I think for five days. So you don’t want to miss out on that. I’m just excited. I’m excited. Actually, one of my team members, Jenn, she’s like, I think you’re glowing. And I swear it’s just from the excitement.

 

So in today’s episode, I want to talk about food pushers and what to do. Let’s first define what a food pusher is. So we have other humans who offer us food, who try to convince us to eat the thing. You might have a food buddy; maybe it’s your mom, your spouse, your friend, and you know, they want you to eat with them. So they try to convince you or they offer you food. My mom loved food. She loved cooking. She was an amazing, amazing cook. And it was the way that she showed love. She wanted you to enjoy her cooking and loved watching you eat it. She could have been called a food pusher for sure.

 

And I kind of am one too. When I cook, I love watching others enjoy it. Now this is the important piece. Someone offering you food or wanting you to eat is just a circumstance. It’s not until you have a thought about it that you make it mean something different than what it is, or you make it mean something that doesn’t serve you. So here’s an example. Your spouse knows that you’re trying to lose weight and brings home donuts. You can make that mean he’s sabotaging me. He wants me to be heavy. He doesn’t support me. But those are choices. Those are just thoughts. You could also think he wanted a donut. Great for him. And he knows I love them too.

 

Just last week, one of my leaders brought in these delicious breakfast burritos. They are green chili beef in homemade tortillas. I love them. He’s brought them in before. So he dropped one of them off to my admin for me. It was so nice. My admin said, Hey, so-and-so dropped this off, but I wasn’t hungry and so I said, oh, just give it to someone else, I’m not hungry and I want someone else to enjoy it. I didn’t make it mean anything. Now my admin, she looked at me like I was a little crazy because she knows one, how delicious they are, and two, how much I love them, but I just moved on, started to talk about something else. I thanked him and was grateful and hoped whoever got the burrito also enjoyed it.

 

See, I used to have some of those similar thoughts around food pushers. I wanted to make them wrong, but I was just pushing off the accountability to them. I was blaming them, having thoughts that I could not control myself. But it’s just nonsense. If someone offers you food, brings home food, it doesn’t mean anything until you have a thought about it.

 

No one is responsible for you losing or gaining weight except you. When you start taking ownership of your weight, your choices, you take your power back my love. If you keep blaming, pushing the ownership to others, then you’re the victim and you can’t move forward from that position. I’m a grown woman. No one makes my food choices except me. No one is force-feeding me. Paul just called me as I was writing this episode because he’s going to lunch with one of his friends today. And they’re going to this place called Backyard Taco. And I, you know, ladies, I, as you can tell, I love Mexican food. So he asked if I wanted anything, but it wasn’t on my plan today.

 

So I said, enjoy, thanks for asking, but I’m good. No drama, just moved on. If someone is pushing it on you just thank them, tell them how much you love them for offering and how appreciative you are of them, but that you’re just not hungry right now. Then change the conversation. Move on. It really is that simple. Even if they look at you crazy, they say something, you don’t need to respond. Just move on. Sometimes they might feel upset. Maybe they even get angry because you don’t want to eat what they’re eating. Love, all you have to do is again, just say thank you, I appreciate you. I love you. When you come from a place of love, it is really hard for the other person to come back with anger.

 

And so just again, how much you love and appreciate, but you’re just not hungry right now. It’s one of the best ways when someone is, you know, trying to convince you to eat something is to come, instead of going into this whole thing about how they’re sabotaging your weight loss. That does not work. Instead, you just love and appreciate them, and come from a place of love. And really, I’m telling you the easiest way is just to say, oh, you know, I’m just not hungry. But you know what? I’ll take it, and maybe I’ll eat it later. I’ll put it on my plan for tomorrow. Again, my love, you just always have the option. And it’s always about what you think about it. It’s never about the other person.

 

Now, one thing I want to talk about is let’s say they offer you the donut and you start negotiating about it. You start to have an urge for it. Like I want it, but it’s not on your plan. Just stop, disrupt, count back from 30, and take a breath. Even just stopping and taking a breath will help you like allow yourself to come into awareness and allow yourself to, you know, say oh thank you so much, I’ll take it and put it on my plan for tomorrow, or no thank you, I’m not hungry right now. It’ll just give you a moment before you just kind of take it because you have the urge and eat it.

 

Now, if you’re a Boss, go into module 2 video number 23. This is where I go deep into handling urges and what to do. If you’re not a Transform Boss, you can listen to episode number 3 of the podcast. And I start to go into how to handle it. Love, you are always in control. You always decide what you’re going to eat. If someone offers you food, decide what you want to think about it. Something that serves you, then take the next best action for you.

 

The transformational questions and actions are one, who do you believe to be the food pushers in your life? Two, what do you want to believe about it? Three, make a decision ahead of time of what you’re going do the next time they offer or bring home something.

 

And if you’re not part of Transform Boss, take my free course. Go to freebosscourse.com. This will give you an introduction and a workbook to get you started on losing weight for the very last time. Ooh, so good. You don’t want to miss next week’s episode either. I’m going to do a special question and answer. I’ve received lots of questions all the time, and so I just compiled a few of them and I’m going to go through them so you don’t want to miss it. All right, bye my love.

 

Thank you for listening to this episode of Weight Loss for Successful Women. If you love what you heard today and want to learn more, come on over to bfly.coaching.com. See you next week.

 

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Facebook Live #66: 3 Diet Myths

Facebook Live #66: 3 Diet Myths

You will not want to miss this episode. I am going to bust some diet myths.

I am sure for most of us, we have been on the diet roller coaster for years – Weight Watchers, Keto, 75 Hard, military diet, restricting, counting calories, eat less exercise more, and so many more. You name it, I have probably done it.

But all these do is keep us overwhelmed. We might have some success, but then get frustrated (because of restricting), and then end up gaining weight again. Have you been there? Feeling frustrated and hopeless, just thinking weight loss would always be your struggle?

I will dive deep in 3 of the biggest diet myths.

I teach a different way – losing weight is an inside job. No diets here.

I will teach you some tips and tricks that I teach my Transform Bosses – like how to handle those cravings or urges.

I will show you how to talk to yourself differently.

Looking outside of ourselves is not the way to lose weight. Are you ready to take your power back?

What You’ll Discover:

  • How diets are just an outside solution that gives your power away
  • How becoming the scientist of your own body can lead to weight loss
  • Weight loss is not about the food

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Ep #134: It’s You or Me – Thinking You Have to Choose

 

Ep #134: It’s You or Me – Thinking You Have to Choose

We have been taught that if we take care of ourselves, if we put our oxygen mask on first, then we are selfish, that we don’t care about others.

Join me in this episode as I dive deep on how that is just not true. In fact, it is the opposite – we are not as good of a mother, wife, friend, etc. if we are not taking care of ourselves.

I will teach you how investing in yourself, taking care of yourself will help you to show up better for everyone else in your life. That it is not selfish to take care of yourself first.

You don’t have to choose. You can invest in yourself and your family. We get to put ourselves on the list (and not at the bottom either!).

Are you ready to lose all the guilt and step into the next version of yourself? One who is ready to have deeper connections and love for everyone else because it starts with yourself.

In today’s episode, you will discover:

  • How to lose the guilt around taking care of yourself first
  • How to turn that “or” statement into an “and” statement – you can take care of yourself and others
  • Losing weight does not have to be a full-time job

Transformational questions/actions:

  1. What aha’s have you had from thinking about investing in yourself?
  2. What can you do to invest in yourself?
  3. What are the benefits to yourself and the other humans in your life, when you invest in yourself?

If you are not part of Transform Boss, take my free course – go to freebosscourse.com. This will give you an introduction and a workbook to get you started on losing weight for the very last time.

Featured on the Show:

  • Take my free mini course where I teach my fundamentals here
  • Follow me on Instagram!

Full Episode Transcript:

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Ep #133: Are You Bored in Weight Loss?

Ep #133: Are You Bored in Weight Loss

Are you bored with weight loss? Tired of doing the same old thing? Well, you will want to listen to this episode for sure.

For most of us when we first start out in our weight loss journey it is exciting, it’s brand new. But then somewhere along the way, we lose that excitement, and it just becomes boring and mundane. The same old routine.

Join me in this episode as I talk about how the boring, mundane, and routine can be amazing!

What it means about your weight loss journey.

We think that big momentous things are what is going to get us to our goal weight. I will show you that it is not.

Food and weight loss will become the least interesting thing in your life.

In today’s episode, you will discover:

  • How the boring, mundane and routine of weight loss can be amazing
  • How food and your weight will become the least interesting thing in your life
  • How to create new habits that will help your future self

Transformational questions/actions:

  1. How is weight loss boring for you?
  2. How can you make that ok and want it to be mundane and boring?
  3. What habits are you creating now that will serve your future self?

And if you are not part of Transform Boss, take my free course – go to freebosscourse.com. This will give you an introduction and a workbook to get you started on losing weight for the very last time.

Featured on the Show:

  • Take my free mini course where I teach my fundamentals here
  • Follow me on Instagram!

Full Episode Transcript:

You are listening to the Weight Loss for Successful Women podcast with Shannan Christiansen episode number 133. Welcome to Weight Loss for Successful Women, a podcast for women who are ready to break the diet cycle and end their struggle with weight for good. Here’s your host, fortune 100 executive, and certified life coach, Shannan Christiansen.

 

Hello Love. So happy to be back with you. Are you bored with weight loss? Tired of doing the same old thing? Well, you want to listen to this episode for sure. But first, I want to give a listener shout out to Dana Hageman Allen. Shannan, I’m hoping that all the ladies that are following your podcast and are on the fence about joining Transform read all these great reviews and join us. I have only one regret that I didn’t find you sooner. You are the real deal. You are kind, compassionate, smart, funny, and love all the ladies. And you have helped us drop our crazy diet beliefs and start believing in ourselves, losing weight, repairing relationships, dreaming big, and it’s all because of you and what you have taught us. I’m so much happier and 35 pounds lighter. And I’m so thankful I have found you and the Transform ladies. Here’s to 2022.

 

Dana. I love me some Dana. She’s been on the podcast too. You should listen to her episode. She is just, she’s amazing. And I am so appreciative of the kind review. But you know ladies, and this is to all my Bosses, you ladies are changing your life. I give you some tools. I support you, biggest fan, cheerleader, but you’re doing the work. You’re showing up. I’m so, so proud of you. Dana, I love you. And so good. Now, if you love this show, please leave a rating or review. I so appreciate it. It really does help get the message out to other ladies. So leave a review and a rating wherever you listen. And then also subscribe. That way every Wednesday, I’m right in your library.

 

So, it is springtime around the nation. I hope wherever you’re at it is beautiful and sunny and crisp air, and you’re able to get out and enjoy some sunshine. For sure, in Arizona it is gorgeous. It really is. You know, even though I know for some of you we’ve hit the nineties a little warm, but mostly we’ve been in the seventies and eighties and it’s just been gorgeous. I’ve been doing this new thing with Paul. We have really kind of gotten into Frisbee golf. And if you don’t know what it is. It’s just like a, we have an 18 hole golf course, but it’s for Frisbee golf. So you throw Frisbees instead of golf balls.

 

And it’s just, you know, it’s a really great way to one, spend time with Paul, which I love, but also just to get out and enjoy the weather. And you know, I’m not that great at it. I love doing it. And I think it’s so fun. So I hope wherever you are that, you know, you’re enjoying this weather.

 

So let’s get into it. About a quarter of the way through my weight loss journey, I started to backslide. I started to have thoughts around like, this is what I have to do for the rest of my life? I don’t want to make a realistic plan. I don’t want to do the reflection every day the rest of my life. I had been losing weight, but as it does, it started to slow down. I wasn’t losing it as fast. And then all the old thoughts, the old habit brain started creeping in and I was playing in the puddle, a lot. See, at the beginning of my journey I was excited. I was having lots of ahas. I was learning this work about mindset change.

 

I was so excited. I was also getting lots of coaching. I mean, I was just feeling amazing. I was so excited that I had found this work, that I was not broken, that I could lose weight without dieting. But after about writing over a hundred realistic plans, I found that it was mundane, a little boring. I didn’t have as much excitement around it.

 

I relate this to new relationships. If you have a new friendship or a new partner relationship, in the beginning it’s pretty exciting, like really exciting. You’re learning about the person. I mean, if it’s a partnership, I mean, all sorts of body reactions are happening. You feel excited. You can’t wait to see them. You feel all the things.

 

And then over time, it’s a little less exciting. Not that it’s not there, but you know a lot about them. You start creating routines, habits with them, and you’re living in the relationship, all of the emotions, good and bad. Same thing with weight loss. It’s exciting at first. Learning, implementing new tools. But after a bit, it gets routine, a little boring.

 

Not that there are not exciting moments, just like in relationships, but it can seem mundane, routine, usual, and sometimes just plain old boring. When I was on the diet roller coaster, I became obsessed with the new diets, tricks, and magical solutions. I loved feeling the excitement and hope. Be very careful of this. If you have been on the diet rollercoaster for a long time, you will find your Lizzie, your lizard brain is always going to be out scanning for the new thing because your brain wants to keep you the same.

 

And so you kind of get this dopamine hit from these new diets, new tricks, pills, potions, all the things. And then when you find something, mindset change that really works, that is work, and it’s something that you can do long-term, the excitement isn’t there. And so what happens is you want that dopamine hit, you want that reward, that kind of excitement of finding something new, and you will find your brain will start to wander. But diets don’t work long-term. And so they always end up in frustration and hopelessness. So just watch when that happens.

 

It will, and just know that, okay, all right, Lizzie, this is what we’re doing. We’re going to go and, you know, think that we need to find a new plan, but we know what we’re doing. This is it. This is what we’re doing for the, you know, for the very last time. We are losing weight for the very last time.

 

And this is just a part of what we do now. This is important to realize in your losing weight for the last time. Boring, mundane, routine, that is amazing. That means it’s becoming a part of your habit brain. It’s like brushing your teeth. I don’t have to think about it. I just do it. It’s part of my habit brain. I don’t have a lot of puddle thoughts or drama about it. It’s not exciting. It’s just what I do, every day brush my teeth. The fundamentals of Transform Boss Weight Loss, my fundamentals, are that way for me too. They’re just part of what I do. I will do them for the rest of my life. They’re not glamorous or exciting.

 

They’re just habits I do because I love living in a body that feels good. I love being able to wear what I want, play with my grandkids, and feel good. Every day I brush my teeth, comb my hair, take a shower. I will do this for the rest of my life. And I never think about it or have drama about it.

 

That is how my fundamentals can be for you too. They just become a part of what you do. We think that the big, exciting things are what is going to get us to our goal weight, but it’s not. It’s the boring every day, mundane tasks and decisions that we do. The actions that we take, thousands of little decisions along the way.

 

You don’t need losing weight to be exciting, because every time you step into the next version of yourself, you will find other things in your life that will scare you and excite you, like going after your dreams, living your best life, deepening the relationship with yourself and others. Food, weight loss will become the least interesting thing in your life. Exactly how it should be.

 

The transformational questions and actions today are one, how is weight loss boring for you? Two, how can you make that okay and want it to be mundane and boring? And three, what habits are you creating now that will serve your future self?

 

And if you are not a part of Transform Boss, take my free course. Go to freebosscourse.com. This will give you an introduction and a workbook to get you started on losing weight or the very last time.

 

Thank you for listening to this episode of Weight Loss for Successful Women. If you love what you heard today and want to learn more, come on over to bfly.coaching.com. See you next week.

 

 

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Facebook Live #64: The Basics of Weight Loss Part 1

Facebook Live #64: The Basics of Weight Loss Pt. 1

Join me in this episode where I am going back to the basics. This will be a two-part episode; this is the first episode and then in two weeks I will do the second part.

The basics of weight loss are all part of my fundamentals. For all of you ladies who are struggling with your weight, looking for a different way, these basics can really help you.

I always thought weight would be my struggle, but I just had to learn a different way.

The magic is in you! It’s really is just starting to believe new things and use simple tools that you can fit into your life.

I will teach you tools you can use for the rest of your life. It is nothing overwhelming. They are tools that will set you up for success.

I will dive deep into the first two fundamentals.

How changing our thoughts lead to success.

The 2 things that our body needs that we overlook the most.

If you are not part of Transform Boss, take my free course – go to freebosscourse.com. This will give you an introduction and a workbook to get you started on losing weight for the very last time.

What You’ll Discover:

  • Losing weight does not have to be overwhelming
  • What you think, you will become – how just changing your thoughts can lead to success
  • How to reconnect to your body

Featured on the Show:

  • Take my free mini course where I teach my fundamentals here
  • Follow me on Instagram!
  • Listen to podcast #105 to learn more
  • If you’re a Transform Boss go into the weight loss course, video #13

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Facebook Live #65: The Basics of Weight Loss Part 2

Facebook Live #64: The Basics of Weight Loss Pt. 1

Join me in this episode where I am going back to the basics. This is the second of a two-part episode.

Two weeks ago I talked about the first two basics: the first basic, one of my fundamentals, was reflection work, and really starting to become aware of the things that have been sabotaging your weight loss success. I also taught what a thought cycle was and how to use it to help you heal your relationship with food, and with yourself so you can get off the diet roller coaster for good.  The second basic I talked about is sleep and water and how important they both are in weight loss.

If you missed that episode you will for sure want to go back and listen to it.

In this episode I am diving deep into the food. I know we have been programmed to just fall back on restricting, counting points, all the pills, shakes, exercise plans, food plans, all the things. We are just so confused about what to eat. We have become disconnected from our bodies.

I will teach you how to listen to your body, your hunger cues, how to reconnect with your body. I love to talk about the brain. We will explore how to get out of your habit brain and into your thinking brain.

I will give you what I think is the best tool to lose weight for the last time. It is a game changer in getting you out of your habit brain.

You will learn how to meet yourself where you are at and be realistic in what you eat. How to slowly up-level over time.

I will give you 2 questions to ask yourself to help you reconnect with your body any time you are hungry.

Are you ready to heal your relationship with food and reconnect with your body?  

If you are not part of Transform Boss, take my free course – go to freebosscourse.com. This will give you an introduction and a workbook to get you started on losing weight for the very last time.

What You’ll Discover:

  • A brain hack to help you keep commitments to yourself to lose weight for the last time
  • How meeting yourself where you are at is key to your success
  • How food can be the least interesting thing in your life

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  • Take my free mini course where I teach my fundamentals here

Follow me on Instagram!

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Ep #132: For the Love of the Body

Ep #132: For the Love of the Body

I remember when I weighed 300 pounds, I just hated my body.

I was just so disconnected with it – at war with it.

Being mad at it – blaming it for feeling tired, achy, not liking different parts of it.

Can you relate?

But when you hate something – you want out of it, you want to run from it, you want to disconnect.

You have one body – it has been with you since day one and will be with you until your last day.

Join me in this episode as I will talk about our bodies and how to love it again.

I will teach you three steps on how to do this.

Are you ready to stop being at war with your body and learn how reconnect with it and even appreciate and love it?

In today’s episode, you will discover:

  • How self-acceptance and self-love will lead to weight loss.
  • How you can appreciate all your body does for you.
  • Your body is the miracle you need to lose weight – not some miracle pill, shake or food plan.

Transformational questions/actions:

  1. How can you have appreciation for it.
  2. What are you resisting with your body that is keeping you from accepting it?
  3. What are you mad at your body about and how is that keeping you stuck?
  4. What does reconnecting mean in your body?

If you are just starting this work and you need community, you need the tools to lose weight for the last time – then start with my free course at freebosscourse.com

Featured on the Show:

  • Take my free mini course where I teach my fundamentals here
  • Follow me on Instagram!
  • For all my Transform Bosses, also listen to Quick HIIT Rest vs. Inactivity

Full Episode Transcript:

You are listening to the Weight Loss for Successful Women podcast with Shannan Christiansen episode number 132. Welcome to Weight Loss for Successful Women, a podcast for women who are ready to break the diet cycle and end their struggle with weight for good. Here’s your host, fortune 100 executive, and certified life coach, Shannan Christiansen.

Hello Love. Always happy to back with you. Ladies, we’re going to talk about our body. Yep. Ooh, I can’t wait. But first, as always, I want to give a listener shout out, and this is Tammie, mtfiddler68, and she wrote Shannan, I just listened to this podcast again, like I have probably the majority of them, and I get something different out of them each time. Realizing that the word impossible is just that – a word, it means nothing until we make it mean something, just kind of opened my eyes that anything and everything is possible. And the statement you made of it’s impossible to live in a body that you do not love really hit home. I’m not totally there yet, but getting there and I’m getting closer each day, thanks to you and your teaching. Thank you for all you do for us Bosses. I’m so grateful for you and have so much love for you.

Oh, thank you so much Tammie. Tammie is one of our Transform Bosses. I appreciate you leaving this review on iTunes, and you know loves, Tammie is an amazing human, and she has just done this work. She’s lost weight. She continues to face her fears and all of the diet trauma, and she just keeps showing up. And she’s one of our mentors, senior mentor. And I just love her. I do. I know, my bosses are amazing.

So I am preparing for Unstoppable Live. I know I keep talking about it, but we are just in full like preparation mode, and it’s all about relationships. So today, I’ve just been thinking about the relationships that we have, and one part is about the relationship that we have with our body. I remember when I was 315 pounds, I hated my body. It felt heavy. You know, I didn’t feel beautiful. I didn’t even want to see myself in a mirror. I felt embarrassed. I mean, I think back to then, and just feeling so much shame all the time.

There wasn’t moments where I didn’t think about it. I mean maybe sometimes, but oh, I just remember even being at work and worrying about what people thought of me. How can you be a leader and you can’t even figure out this weight problem? You know, all of these things. And I felt tired, I felt exhausted. I mean, here I was in my late twenties and I was 315 pounds. It was like my late twenties, early thirties. And I just felt that I was at war with my body. And I blamed my body. I was disconnected from my body. I wanted out of it.

I remember having thoughts like, if I could just get on Biggest Loser, if I could just wire my mouth shut for six months and drink, you know, liquid diet, right. I just wanted to do anything to get out of the body. I remember those pictures where they taught, you know, you see where they like, unzipper the overweight person, and then in the, in the center of it was this thin person. I remember just thinking like somewhere in there is this person who is thin. But I just hated my body. And I was mad at it. I was blaming it for feeling tired and achy. I didn’t like parts of it. I didn’t like my stomach. I didn’t like my legs. I thought they were too big. And I didn’t like my arms.

Why I want to share this with you is because when you dislike something or you hate it, you want out of it. You want to run from it. You want to disconnect. Maybe you’ve had health issues. Maybe you’ve had infertility issues and you couldn’t have a baby, and you’re so mad at your body. So, you disconnect, you overeat. And then on top of all of it, you feel worse because of it. You beat yourself up.

You tell yourself, you’re never going to figure this out. This is too hard. You, you know, we have these pity parties for why is this happening to me? Why is this my problem? We blame our genetics and our mothers and how we grew up. And I just want to offer you, my love, I have felt all of those things. But that didn’t help me lose weight for the last time. You have one body. It has been with you since day one, and it’s the only thing that has been with you since day one, and will be with you until your last day.

The first step of starting to change the way that you think about your body is acceptance of it. Allowing yourself to accept what your body does and all its beauty and imperfections. See, to lose weight for the last time, you have to start thinking different, believing different things, and you have to start this journey of self-acceptance and self-love. Now I know for so many of you, you have been at war with your body for so long that the thought of loving it is so far. But what I want you to do is start with these first two steps I’m going to teach you.

And this first step of just accepting it, just looking at it, allowing it, allowing your body to be, and looking at its beauty and its imperfections. We have this thought that if we accept it, right, if we accept our bodies, we won’t want to change it. But I want to challenge that. If you keep resisting it, you keep disconnecting from your body, you will never change it. See, the reason why you don’t know when you’re hungry or you don’t know when you’re physically hungry or you don’t know when you’re approaching full is because you’ve disconnected from your body. You don’t pay attention to it anymore.

We have hormones, actual hormones in our bodies that tell us when we’re physically hungry, when we’re approaching full, and we don’t pay attention to them anymore because we’re so disconnected from our bodies. And I just want to offer you this first step of accepting it, of just accepting it for what it is today, that is how you will change it. If you keep disconnecting, you keep running from it. You keep telling yourself how horrible it is, how you hate it, how you just have, you know, so much fat, how you know, it’s let you down. My love, you won’t be able to move forward in losing weight for the last time. You might lose some weight, but you’ll always gain it back.

Now, the second step is appreciation for it. Now this is a little different than loving it. This second step is the first step in how you start to find love for your body. Appreciation is just this deep appreciation for all that your body does. Love, your body, your body, I just need you to hear this, it is a miracle. Think of it. Think of it, of how your body heals, how it breathes, how it processes all that food that we overeat. For all my ladies who have produced babies, you have had a human. That’s what your body has produced. It does all of these things that we don’t even have to think about.

It takes care of us, even when we don’t give it enough sleep, we don’t give it enough water, we don’t take deep breaths, we don’t eat food that fuels us, it still gets up. And I say this love, because your body, your body is beautiful and amazing and a miracle. And when you can slowly start to appreciate it and you can start, you know, I appreciate that it got me out of bed today. I appreciate that I’m breathing. I appreciate that I’m thinking, that I’m listening to this podcast. This is what your body does for you. It is amazing.

Now the third step is starting to reconnect, going into it, paying attention to it. See your body is the miracle. I know all the things out in the world will tell you, take this miracle pill or drug or whatever it is, or miracle shake or miracle food combination. No. To lose weight for the last time, you have to find the miracle that you already have, and it’s your body. And when you start paying attention to it, you will realize that it has been here for you all along. And starting to pay attention, starting to reconnect, finding your hunger cues, your fullness cues, and then what happens over time as you, you know, work with me as you, you know, if you’re a Transform Boss, you can go into module one where I really go into hunger and fullness. But as you start to do this work, you’ll start wanting to take care of it. You’re going to start to find that you want fuel, that you want to feel differently. You’ll find yourself wanting to move it more, not crazy exercise, you’ll just want to, you know, take a couple extra steps. You’ll want to maybe, you know, do something that’s fun that moves your body. When you reconnect to your body, you will want to take care of it.

If you keep resisting it, you keep telling, you know, looking at it and just despising it, love, you will stay on the diet roller coaster. And I know this because I did it. When I started to accept it right where it was right at the beginning, right when it was, you know, 250 pounds or 260 probably at the time, when I started to accept it, when I started to have appreciation for it, when I started reconnect with it, everything, started to change.

And so my love, the transformational questions and actions are one, how can you have appreciation for your body? Two, what are you resisting with your body that’s keeping you from accepting it? Three, what are you mad about your body about and how is that keeping you stuck? Four, what does reconnecting mean in your body? Ooh, it’s so good my love.

And love, if you want to take this work deeper and you want to start the journey of losing weight for the last time, take my free course. If you’ve not taken it yet, you got to take it. Go to freebosscourse.com. We’ll put it in the show notes so that you have it. But this is really the first step in learning the basics of what I teach. Look, I teach women how to lose weight for the very last time by learning how to enjoy foods that they have, learning how to think and believe different things, and we have community that is there to support and help. So you for sure want to take that. All right my love, I will see you same time, same place next week.

Thank you for listening to this episode of Weight Loss for Successful Women. If you love what you heard today and want to learn more, come on over to bflycoaching.com. See you next week.

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