Ep #228: How to Fail in Weight Loss

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Episode #228: How to Fail in Weight Loss

There are a lot of folks that have labeled themselves as failures.

They have allowed it to become their identity.

No one is a success, and no one is a failure.

We have successes and we have failures. 

The definition of failure is an event that does not accomplish its intended purpose, lack of success.

Failure is subjective.

Success is subjective too.

Failure is just a decision point.

It’s a trigger to say do I keep doing what I’ve been doing?

Do I try something different?

It just gives us a reason to do nothing.

A reason to quit on ourselves.

To have weight loss success, to get off the diet roller coaster for good, you have to learn how to fail and not quit.

In today’s episode of the podcast, I give you three ways to help you fail your way to all your wins.

In this episode…

≫[1:35] Failure – an event that does not accomplish its intended purpose, lack of success.

≫[1:43] What is success?

≫[2:50] Failure is a decision point.

≫[3:44] No one is a success and no one is a failure. We have successes and we have failures.

≫[4:33] Failure is an event. It’s a moment. It’s not who you are.

≫[5:40] To have weight loss success, to get off the diet roller coaster for good, you have to learn how to fail and not quit.

≫[6:46] I love to tell myself when my brain’s in the puddle, okay, this happened. So what? Now, what’s the next best action?

≫[6:55] Three ways that can help you fail your way to all your wins.

≫[9:20] How do I become more consistent? Fail, and get back up again.

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You are listening to the Weight Loss for Successful Women Podcast with Shannan Christiansen, episode number 228. Welcome to Weight Loss for Successful Women, a podcast for women who are ready to break the diet cycle and end their struggle with weight for good. Here’s your host, fortune 100 executive and certified life coach, Shannan Christiansen. Hello, love. The challenge is back.

Yay. Yes, jump start Your weight loss in 2024. It is back. I know we haven’t done a challenge since October. I’m so excited about it. I think we’re gonna do maybe three this year. I don’t know. I don’t have them all planned three at the most, but for sure we have one coming up. It’s gonna start on February 26th,

and you can go to bflycoaching.com/me. You can register. Yes, yes, yes. And you know, I know ladies have been waiting to join us and so you’ve been waiting for us to open. So we’re gonna open on February 28th. So we’re gonna start the challenge on that Monday. We’re gonna open on Wednesday. And let’s go. Ladies,

  1. I know, I can’t wait. So how to fail in weight loss. Hmm. Shannan, you may be thinking like, I’m pretty sure I have this covered, but do you I know. Stay with me. Stay with me. So failure is subjective and I wanna give you like the Webster’s definition. So an event that does not accomplish its intended purpose,

lack of success. So now let’s go to talk about success. So what is success? Hmm. That’s pretty subjective too. It’s all relative. So is success when you hit 120 pounds, 150 pounds when you, you know, look a certain way when you, you know, look like you’re 20 again, I don’t know. What is it? Is it health markers?

Is it how long you live? How much you walk, how you can live something, how you can move? Like what is it like? What is success? All of it. Failure and success is subjective, and it is your belief around it. Why this is important is because failure, again, an event that did not accomplish its intended purpose.

So if I set a goal that I wanna lose four pounds this month, and I get on the scale and it says I lost three pounds, is that a failure to lose three pounds? Right? A lot of things have to happen, right? Insulin levels have to decrease so you can release it. Calorie, deficit, water, sleep, hormones.

So is it a failure? The more I do this work, the more that I have come to think of failure differently. Failure is just a decision point. It’s a trigger to say, do I keep doing what I’ve been doing? Do I try something different? Do I uplevel? Do I like what I’m doing? Does it feel good? It’s a point for you,

a decision point to ask yourself questions, to get curious. Have I learned something from it? Maybe I need to adjust my fuel food, my water, or maybe I’ve been having wins and I just wanna keep doing what I’ve been doing. See, too many times we allow failure to give us an excuse to quit. And I just tell you, success failure,

it’s subjective. It’s like, I don’t know, it’s like made up terms to describe something that happens. And what we’ve done is it’s a moment, it’s a right, a win. A success is a moment. I just wanna tell all of you, no one is a success and no one is a failure. We have successes and we have failures.

This is what it’s all about. This is life. And I tell you, we just have been thinking about success and failure in a way that really keeps us doing nothing. We’ve allowed it to become an excuse to be this thing that, hmm, I’m not having any success, or I’m having too many failures. Or what if I have success? I mean,

we’ve just put so much, you know, drama in the puddle about this. And so basically what it does is it just gives us a reason to do nothing. To quit on ourselves, to eat all the things and go through the binge and self-destruction phase again, I just wanna remind you that failure is an event. It’s a moment. It’s not who you are.

So often we think, well, I’m a failure at weight loss. You’re not a failure. You’re just learning. You’re just, again, growing, you’re learning, you’re moving through it. You’ve had failures. I do too. I fail all the time. And the way that I think about failure has really changed for me. I used to be so scared of failing.

I used to be so scared of like, what if I fail? Right? What if I feel shame? What if I feel, you know, fear and now I just know I can feel shame. I can’t. I can feel disappointment. I can feel like, oh, maybe I should have tried it this way. Or I can ask myself questions and get curious about it.

Learning how to fail to have challenges and overcome them, or change or, you know, maybe make a decision again about, oh, I like what I’m doing. That’s okay. Yeah, so, so what? I ate off plan yesterday. So what today, you know, I’m just making my plan and I’m taking the next best action. So to have weight loss success,

to get off the diet roller coaster, for good you have to learn how to fail and not quit. Because what happens, and the diet roller coaster is full of this diet. Culture is full of this. It’s just this constant, I fail and then I quit me. And so we just give up. We just quit. We just, you know,

or we get into this confusion puddle of, oh, it’s not working. I gotta do something different. I gotta try something different. We quit on ourselves right before, like the win. This happens so much in life, in so many areas of our lives, right? We’re getting ready to have the win, to have the success, right? Boom.

And we quit. We give up. Because again, the way that we think of failure, we think of failure as a bad thing. And it’s not. Failure is amazing. Failure is wonderful. Failure is part of all of it. And it’s very subjective. And failure is just moment. It’s just an event. It’s a thing. It’s like,

okay, I overate. Alright. So what I love to tell myself, when my brain’s like in the puddle, I just love to say like, okay, this happened. So what? Now? What’s the next best action? So here are three ways that I think can really help you fail your way to all your wins. Hmm. I know,

right? So, number one, you’re gonna fail. If you think you’re gonna do it perfectly and you’re gonna lose weight, and you’re, you’re just setting yourself up to quit. Remember, your brain is tricky. You, your brain is sneaky. Your brain is like, let’s just stay the same. Let’s not do, right? So again, you will fail,

you will have challenges, you will have life. Things that wanna pull you away. And you just have to know, okay, I’m gonna fail. I’m gonna have challenges. Two, start to change. What failure means, what it means to you, when you start embracing it as something that is positive, something that is good, something that is for you.

So you can learn and you can grow. I’m telling you, it’s everything. You stop worrying about feeling shame or disappointment or discouraged. You’re just like, oh yeah, okay, so what? No, I know. I love that. I don’t know why. But for me, I love that. Like just telling myself like, okay, Shannan,

so what? It’s all good. Move on. Go to the next thing. What’d you learn from it? Move on. Number three, just take the next step forward. The next best action. One thing, one focus, one step. You know, I think in this life, there are lots of folks who have labeled themselves as failures, really.

I mean, they’ve allowed it to become, they’ve identified that, right? I used to identify as a failure in weight loss, right? It was my struggle, right? We use different language for failure, just so you know. So beyond to yourself about that too. It’s not just the word failure. It’s my struggle. It’s so hard. This is who I am.

I’m supposed to be, I’m big boned. You know what I’m saying? So don’t get tricky. I know, I know. My brain’s tricky too. You are not a failure. No one on this planet is a failure. It’s just an event. It’s a moment if you get curious, right? That’s the best part. Just get curious, like what’s happening,

and then ask, what can I learn so I can move on and say, okay, so what Now? How do I move on? What’s the next step? You’ll actually have more wins. You’ll have more success. You’ll be more consistent. Ladies, always ask me like, how do I become consistent? Fail and then get back up. Fail,

get back up. What happens is we have a challenge, we have a failure, and then we just stay down. And I’m saying, get back up. Get back up. Get back up. Get back up. Yes, yes, yes. So more success. Be more consistent. Have more wins. Hashtag win. Mm mm Do you wanna lose weight for the last time?

Oh yes. Get off the diet rollercoaster for good, and just really ultimately feel better living a life that you want, that you’ve created one. Follow this podcast, follow it on YouTube, follow it wherever you listen to it. Two, get on my email list, bflycoaching.com/email, and then go to jointransformboss.com.

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Bye for now. Thank you for listening to this episode of Weight Loss for Successful Women. If you love what you heard today and wanna learn more, come on over to bflycoaching.com. That’s bflycoaching.com. See you next week.

 

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