Christmas is over and 2021 is right around the corner, I cannot believe it. It feels almost like a requirement this time of the year for us to sit down and think of all that we want to accomplish in the next year to come. We usually always include some sort of weight loss goal and make our list way too long and unattainable, then end up beating ourselves up for it just a couple months into the year because it’s not being done perfectly.
On this episode I will share with you how I reflected on 2020 and then how I make a plan for 2021. I love using this time of year to really reflect and to use that to help me grow, serve and learn. It’s so important that we are not only looking forward to all the new and exciting things we will accomplish and experience in the next year, but also to reflect on all that’s happened in the last year. What are things that we were challenged by, what did we learn, what would we do differently the next time. I encourage you to plan a time to sit and reflect on it all of last year.
Come and join me as I give you 3 tips on the secret to success when creating goals for the new year that will leave you feeling empowered and curious instead of overwhelmed and beating yourself up.
You are listening to the Weight Loss for Successful Women Podcast with Shannan Christiansen, Episode number 66. Welcome to Weight Loss for Successful Women. A podcast for women who are ready to break the diet cycle and end their struggle with weight for good. Here’s your host Fortune 100 Executive and Certified Life Coach Shannan Christiansen. Hello love. So happy to be back with you.
I’m excited about today’s show. I’m so excited because I am going to talk about reflection and 2020, and then how do we move forward in 2021? I want to help you start 2021 with the best plan on how to achieve the goals and the successes you set for yourself. Last year, I did an episode on how to bust a New Year’s resolutions, that’s at bflycoaching.com/15. And this year I just want to go a little bit deeper on reflection and then setting yourself up for success in 2021.
But first I want to give a listener, shout out. This is where our reader review of the podcast. Every week, this week’s listener shout-out is to Shelby Lazeren. She wrote is “Shannan, that will help me out so much. Thank you for always being there for us and for me, you are the best.” Well thank you, Shelby. And if you liked this show and you want to rate and review it, please leave me a review. Wherever you listen to podcasts, I would so appreciate it. I really do read every single review.
Can you believe Christmas is over? I mean, I can’t believe it. And we’re a few days away from 2021. I hope you had a wonderful holiday. I did for sure. I had a lot of fun with my husband and did a lot of relaxing, a lot of binge-watching Netflix, a lot. I also spent time creating. I love creating. I love business.
I have found that I love working in the business. It is not work to me. It feels like love. I love learning about it. And tip ladies do more of what you love. When you have more joy and pleasure, a cupcake just does not have the same appeal. Okay. But back to the show, rest was important for me this past week, but so was creating and learning.
I thought about where I had been in 2020 transform my day job, my relationships, including the one with myself. I looked for my successes. I looked for the things that went right. I wanted to know exactly what my starting point for 2021 is. I thought, and I wrote a lot about my Transform Bosses, about how could I help them achieve their goals? How can I help them be more successful? How can I make weight loss easy for them?
And yes, my love, I do believe weight loss can be easy, but I want to go back for a moment back to years ago. See, I used to set tons of goals and go through this whole New Year’s resolution process. I mean, have you done this ladies? I know you have. I would seriously do a 30 page document on goal setting for the year. Weight loss was always on there. I would set 52 impossible goals.
Then the new year would go on and I would quit on most, if not all of them. I did not take the time to look at where I had been. And if I did look, it was to beat myself up for not doing it right, or to make some excuse about why it did not happen. I didn’t spend enough time in reflection and thinking about what did go, right? What were the challenges? Not from a beat down excuse, but from a place of curiosity and love. I do still love the new year.
I love goals. I love thinking about success. I love thinking about my future self. And if you’re in the Transform Weight-Loss Program, we’re doing a Future Self-Workshop. It’s coming January 6th. I mean, that’s how much I love future self-work, but my process is different. And the way that I think about my goals are different.
When I look back at 2020, I looked back at my challenges, the loss, the hard things. I feel the pain of it, the disappointment. Not at a way to beat myself up or think that something had gone wrong. Ooh, I need to say that again my love, not a way to beat myself up or think that something had gone wrong, but to honestly find the love in it.
And then I look for my successes. I decide what I want to think about 2020. What was good, shoot, what was wonderful about it and what was hard about it? And I write all of this down. I love the process of reflection, the process of getting it all out on paper, not even to look at it again, but just to let it out of my brain. And then I am clear, I know exactly what I want for 2021. And then I can create the success I want.
Where do I want to grow? Where do I want to learn? I don’t make it complicated. I for sure do not set 52 goals. I set a handful of successes I want. The handful, instead of changing everything about me, my family, my career, my body, my finances. I really make a realistic plan and not idealistic. As one of my ladies would say, then I make a plan. I make a plan for failure. I look at all the ways I could fail. And I put a strategy in for each one. I have my ladies do this. So here’s an example.
So, if the success that they would want is to lose 25 pounds, then they would put one of the ways that I can fail is not making my realistic plan. So, a strategy for every time I realize that I’ve not made my plan for the day. I make it right then and there. Even if it’s on a napkin, even if it’s on, you know, a post-it note. I just make it right then and there.
And then I simply asked myself why, just to be curious about why did not make my realistic plan, no judgments or beat downs. The secret to success is by learning how to fail and then having a strategy because love, this is how the weight loss journey goes.
We think that we’re going to be perfect and that we’re going to do everything perfect. And then when we don’t, we beat ourselves up and then we quit, and it happens over and over again. And a really important thing to do is to plan out your failures. Know that you’re not going to do it perfectly, but you have a plan for when you go off plan, you have a plan for when one of the challenges or failures come up. You know exactly what you’re going to do.
I tell you love, this strategy of knowing and planning my failures and having a strategy has helped me in so many areas of my life. And it really has helped me to have more success. So, the process is one, reflect on 2020, look at all the pain and challenges, process the emotions of it, and then look all your successes, write it all down.
And number two, what success do you want in 2021? And then, make a plan for your failures and a strategy to take the next best action. Now, if you’re one of my transformed bosses, no worries. Love. We’re going to do all of this in the workshop on January 6th. I mean, so fun. My goal of 2021 is not to be happy, but to feel all the emotions and to continue to serve, grow and learn. Every success and failure will come from that.
So, the transformational questions are number one, what success and challenges did you have in 2020? And number two, what successes do you want in 2021? And number three, how are you planning to fail? Oh, so good. My love, join me next week as I discuss the secret to weight loss, the three C’s, yes, the letter C.
And if you want to work with me and take this work deeper and learn how to lose weight in a way that feels easy, then join us in Transform Weight Loss Program. Transform opens again on January 13th, we are going to welcome in a whole group of ladies. You can get on the wait list to be the first to know about all the fun and amazing things that will happen around the launch. You can get on the wait list by going to bflycoaching.com/waitlist.
Thank you for listening to this episode of Weight Loss for Successful Women. If you love what you heard today and want to learn more, come on over to bflycoaching.com. See you next week.