Ep #67: The Secret to Weight Loss – The 3 C’s

You are listening to the Weight Loss for Successful Women Podcast with Shannan Christiansen, Episode number 67. Welcome to Weight Loss for Successful Women. A podcast for women who are ready to break the diet cycle and end their struggle with weight for good. Here’s your host Fortune 100 Executive and Certified Life Coach Shannan Christiansen.

Hello, love the so happy to be back with you. I am excited about today’s show as always. This is the first podcast of 2021. Can you even believe it? I mean, so crazy. Today I’m going to give you the secret to weight loss, the three CS, but first I want to give a listener, shout out. This is where I’ll read a review of the podcast every week.

This week’s listener shout-out is to Carmi87. She wrote “this podcast has helped me when I was at a low in life. I had lost weight and gained back a hundred pounds within two years, and it wasn’t even the first time I have been doing this. Most of my life, I felt lost and alone. Why do I have such a struggle with this? Shannan has given me hope. She knows how it feels. She gave me a realistic plan. That includes food. I eat every day and tools that help change my relationship with food and my thoughts about it. I’m changing from the inside out this time so I can learn to love my life, not food. I am starting to believe in myself again.” Oh, I love that Carmi87. Thank you so much.

We also drew for the $150 gift card. So fun and the winner is Ashley Carr. Thank you. So, did you like the sound effects? I did. Thank you, Ashley for leaving review and congratulations on winning the gift card. I mean, so fun, right? If you like the show, if you could leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts, I would sure appreciate it. It just helps other ladies find the show and listen to it too.

So happy and New Year love. I know that so many of us look back at 2020 and have lots of thoughts about it. Lots of maybe not so positive thoughts about 2020. It was a challenging year for sure. There was so much pain, loss, uncertainty, and fear. It was a really tumultuous year. I really do believe that our human experience is 50/50.

It is the balance. For sure, we have seasons that are more 70/30 or 30/70, but I believe it all balances out. What has really helped me with 2020 is seeing the good in it, but also allowing myself to feel the negative emotions about it, to cry, to feel all of it. I know that most of us were taught that our goal is to find happiness, but that keeps us feeling like something is going wrong when we have pain or shame or loss or fear. But all of that is part of it too. I say this, loves because I love a new year. I love beginnings. But part of what I’ve learned is to love the hard stuff to the middle and the end its learning. This has really changed my life changed how I feel about all the different emotions.

This is what I teach my ladies in Transform to love all of it and process all of their emotions because when you can feel negative emotion process, it, it also helps you to feel the positive ones to add a higher vibration. You actually will feel better because you will feel positive emotions at a higher vibration too.

In today’s show, I’m going to share the secret to weight loss, but I want to begin with my story. I was eight years old the first time I remember being overweight and that it was a problem. I remember feeling different and wanting to be thin like my friends so bad. I wanted that I wanted to have a body that I felt good at, and that I loved.

I would dream about how it must feel to live in a thin body to wear whatever you want it to run, to feel freedom and what it would feel like to love my body. All of this was a foreign concept to me, and it really led to 38 years of dieting and gaining and losing hundreds of pounds. Even weight loss surgery, but worse than the endless dieting was the way that I felt about myself and my body.

I had tried all of it. I had restricted. I had binged. I tried to eat balanced, try to hold out for cheat days. I tried all the national programs, gym memberships, personal training. I had weight loss surgery. I never hit my goal weight.

And within two years of it, I was back on the diet roller coaster and was on it for another eight years. I was gaining and losing weight in 2014. I declared that I was not going back to dieting or any of the national programs again. I knew that the solution was not in a food plant and I was going to figure it out.

I found my coach/teacher that year, but 2014 was a tough year for me. My mom and mother-in-law were both ill. And I did what I always did and put myself on the back burner. I stopped the work with my teacher. I dabbled over the next couple of years in her work. My mom and my mother-in-law passed at the beginning of 2015, I was processing grief and barely keeping my head above water.

In 2016, I started the work again. I had done a lot of work on processing. My mother’s passing and felt like it was time for me to begin the journey of losing weight for good, without dieting. And I was not going to place myself on the back burner anymore.

Over the next two years, I did the work. I went to retreats, hired a coach, joined several coaching programs and learned how to change my thinking and love, I lost my weight. See, it was not until I dug into the work on changing my limiting thoughts and beliefs, that it was able to lose and maintain weight loss, and really begin to believe that I was good enough and that my body was too.

It was coaching and learning how to change my habits and thinking. I knew that I wanted to take this work and share it with every woman I knew. So, I was certified as a Life and Weight Coach in 2018. In 2018. I started life coaching and I loved it. I’ve been coaching for over 25 years in business, but I loved working one-on-one with women.

All the work I did in 2016 through 2018 changed my life. Not only my weight, but my relationship with my husband, my career, my confidence, my ability to live my best life in a body that I loved. When I was losing my weight, I loved my one-on-one coaching that I was getting with my coach and all of the tools I was learning.

But the one thing that was missing was community. I still felt alone. We would have these in-person meetings a couple of times per year with my coaching program and it was the only time that I felt community. I knew that I, that women losing weight needed more of that. We needed other women going through the pain and failure I was having.

I believe the secret to weight loss and living your best life has three components and they are all necessary to lose weight for good and really live your best life. The three C’s of weight loss are Coaching, plus Community, plus Course, and course really are the tools. This is why I created Transform Weight Loss Program. It’s the secret to living your best life in a body that you love. So, I want to take a moment and go through each of the Cs.

So coaching number one, coaching is where someone asks you questions to help you uncover your own roadblocks. See our brains are complex. And so many times we don’t even know what our subconscious is thinking and how it’s affecting our actions and our results. Have you ever thought, why am I doing this to myself? Why did I eat that? Why is this my struggle? Being coach is one of the most powerful tools to help you uncover your obstacles and also, when you watch others get coached, it can have the same impact.

Number two, community loves we all need more community. We need positive supporting loving communities of women who know what we’re going through, who can hold us accountable, who can inspire us, who can help us through this journey. We have been doing this long enough alone, right? Community kind of like being with your best friends all of the time, where at any minute you can reach out and they’re there for you. No judgment, only love.

And number three course, the course is the roadmap to your journey. It’s the tools that will help you create new habits, actual practical application. So, you can change your habits, limiting beliefs and self- sabotaging behavior.

Have you ever thought, or do I begin? I have no idea how to start changing my mindset. That is where the course comes in. It is the roadmap to your success. These three components are the key to success. I know, because this is how I lost weight and how I’ve been able to keep it off and live my absolute best life. I know this because I watch women lose weight, change their relationships and live their best lives in Transform. Learning and implementing the three C’s. It is the secret. It is such freedom. I felt for most of my life, like I was in a prison of obsessing and dieting. I wanted the horror ride of the diet roller coaster, I wanted to get off. It is possible for you.

You know, the secret. Now, if you want to take this work deeper and have a program that is built on the three C’s, then get on the waitlist. Transform is opening again on January 13th, go to bflycoaching.com/waitlist.

So good. My love bye for now. Thank you for listening to this episode of Weight Loss for Successful Women. If you love what you heard today and want to learn more, come on over to bflycoaching.com. See you next week.