EP #83: The 5 Emotions to Lean Into While Losing Weight

You are listening to the Weight Loss for Successful Women podcast with Shannan Christiansen episode number 83. Welcome to Weight Loss for Successful Women. A podcast for women who are ready to break the diet cycle and end their struggle with weight for good. Here’s your host, fortune 100 executive, and certified life coach, Shannan Christiansen.

Hello Love, so happy to be back with you. Of course, I’m excited about today’s show. On today’s show, We are going to dive into the five emotions of weight loss success. Ooh, it’s going to be so good. Producing these emotions in your body will assist you in getting off the diet rollercoaster. But first I want to give a listener shout out. This is where I’ll read a review of the podcast, and this week’s listener shout out is to Nancynut. Joining Transform has been life changing for me. I am learning how to love the body I’m in. Shannan says awareness changes your life. And it certainly does, just being aware of why you’re overeating helps to change the mindset that you need food to buffer, that feeling where you’re truly feeling has been one of the many tools I’ve learned. Losing weight is just the cherry on top. If you’re looking to get off the diet roller coaster and lose weight for good join Shannan’s Transform weight loss program.

Oh, thank you Nancy. Nancy, I love that so much. I mean, it is true, right? Learning how to feel our feelings. It’s everything. Ladies, everything we do, everything is so that we can either feel a certain way. We want to feel joy or happiness, or we buffer because we don’t want to feel negative emotion. And now it’s so good. Thank you so much Nancy. Now love, if you love this show, I would so appreciate a rating and review. It just helps other women find this amazing show.

Oh, love. It has been an exciting couple of weeks. Oh, we completed our live virtual event in Transform, had a birthday celebration at my house and almost finished with our new free course. I loved our Transform virtual event. We do this biannually and it’s for Transform members only. And it was so good. I loved every minute of it. I taught, I coached. I, you know, spent time with the ladies. My beautiful family came on. Our Transform coaches came on, Jenn and Dawn. We danced. It was amazing. And we ended with awards. I love watching women show up for themselves. I love watching ladies have success. And you know, so many of my ladies are having weight loss success, but it’s showing up in many other areas of their lives.

They’re starting to show up for themselves. They’re changing careers. They’re having better relationships. They’re doing things that they never thought they would do before. That is the power of this work of Transform Weight Loss Program. So it was amazing. I loved it. Our next one’s in October so I cannot wait. And we also had a birthday celebration at my house and we had a tiny party with just my immediate family, but it was so good. We celebrated my dad’s 71st birthday. He’s such a big boss, and my niece, she turned 17 and it was so fun and all my grandbabies were there and my brother and my sister-in-law and of course Taylor and Telyn and Paul, you know, it was just so fun. It was the first time that we had all been together in quite a bit.

So it was just a really great time. And we played games. I do have to say, I won one of the games and I was like a little kid. Like I won. I’m not kidding ladies. It was hilarious. So we just had a total blast and it was fun. And the kids were amazing, you know, and my little Emma, I know she’s two months old loves, two months old and she is just the sweetest. She’s the sweetest. You know I love my grandbabies. And then we had been working on a new Transform free course. And ladies, it is good. It is good. So, you know, of course we’ll put it out there when it comes, but we have really been spending a lot of time to make sure that it’s really updated and that it’s amazing. And my team has been working on it and it’s been a lot of work, but it is going to be just fantastic. And so I’m super excited about that. It is coming soon. It’s coming soon.

So I was thinking about when I set goals and you know, like weight loss goals when I was losing my weight, all sorts of things came up like how I wanted to quit or how I was going to fail, you know, and I wanted my love to learn how to feel all of my feelings without taking negative action on myself. I really wanted to learn how to become unstoppable. When I was getting ready for the Transform virtual event I was thinking about the emotions, that I would lean into, the emotions that really helped me when I want to quit or when I want to give up or when I don’t want to do something.

And so I put together this really cool infographic for all of my Transform bosses. And today I want to share those five emotions with you. And these are five emotions to lean into whenever you’re trying to achieve any goal. I want this episode to be inspirational so you can listen again and again, as you go through your weight loss journey. There are five emotions that I believe when you lean into, they will help you lose weight. Your thoughts cause your emotions. So I want to say that again, your thoughts, you think a thought, and then it causes an emotion, a feeling in your body. So when you want to feel a certain way, you want to think a thought that will produce that emotion.

So the first of the five emotions is courage. See, you have to feel courage when you fail, when you have a challenge. Courage is so powerful. I was thinking about how many fails I’ve had in weight loss. I have failed more times than I have been successful. I’ve had overeats, not made my realistic plan. There have been nights where I’ve not gotten enough sleep. I’ve learned that when I start to think my failures are the bridge to my success, then I start to feel courage, courage when I want to give up. See love, this emotion of courage is so powerful. When you think thoughts that produce courage, you start to feel powerful. You start to feel courageous.

And it leads me into the second emotion, resilience. The resilience, my love, to get back up. See love, we’ve all been on our knees. We’ve all failed. But each time we get back up, each time we move forward, we build resilience and it becomes a fire. Love, every lady that I know, every woman that I know, we have a story, we’ve had trauma and pain and loss and grief and challenges, but we keep getting up, because we build this fire in our body that keeps us moving forward.

It keeps us from quitting on ourselves. And the thought that I’ve practiced is this moment is just temporary. It’s a thought that I practice that helps me feel resilient. It helps me get back up.

The third emotion to lean into in your weight loss journey is commitment. I used to believe that I needed motivation, but I found that commitment is such a, Oh it’s such a powerful emotion. The commitment to show up. Love, we must show up for us, because love, we matter. We have to commit to lead by example and show up for ourselves. I know so many of you believe that everyone else comes first, but that produces resentment, frustration and sadness in us. When we commit to show up for ourselves, we are better wives and partners and friends and parents and daughters. The thought I practice is I commit to show up for myself and I’m worth it. These thoughts produce the feeling of commitment and then love, I show up.

The fourth emotion is desire. The desire to become unstoppable, the desire to have real pleasure and joy in our life. We have lived with a desire to overeat, and by changing the thoughts that produce desire to ones associated with real desire, real pleasure. See, I used to overeat because I lived a life for everyone else. I was literally stuffing my emotions down with sugar cookies. I learned how to desire a better life with real pleasure, like creating, serving, spending time with my family, coaching, doing the things that light me up. Real pleasure is different for everyone. But I promise that real pleasure instead of false pleasure, like sugar cookies, it’s everything. Food is a cheap substitute for life and love. The thought I practice is I desire real pleasure and joy because that is what I deserve.

And the fifth emotion is love. Love, love is everything. Love the hard. I have learned to love the hard. Losing weight is hard. Building a business is hard, but that is what is amazing about it. When you do hard things, you become unstoppable. You build the fire in you to do anything, to reach any goal and love, have love for you. Love for your body. When is the last time you looked in the mirror and really appreciated you, had love for you. We give love to others, but we never take the time to show ourselves the love. The kindness. I challenge you today to show yourself love. Look in the mirror, look in your eyes and see your beauty and feel love. And lastly, love for the humans. We are all imperfect humans, living a human experience, doing our best with all our beauty and all our flaws. I love the humans. See love, whenever you’re feeling frustrated, sad, disappointed, feel it. It’s okay my love. And then practice a different thought, decide on purpose what you want to think and believe. This work is everything. It is the work of your life.

The transformational questions are one, How can you practice one new thought to produce one of these five emotions? And two, What would you have to think and feel to become unstoppable?

And if you need help implementing the tools that I teach and going deeper on this work, I invite you to join Transform Weight Loss Program. This program is based on three elements: coaching, community, and a weight loss course. This program will help you implement the tools so you can live your best life in a body you love. Go to bflycoaching.com/join to learn more. So much love. Bye for now.

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