Ep #60: What You Must Do to Lose Weight and Not Gain it Back

You are listening to the Weight Loss for Successful Women podcast with Shannan Christiansen, episode number 60.

Welcome to Weight Loss for Successful Women, a podcast for women who are ready to break the diet cycle and end their struggle with weight for good. Here’s your host, Fortune 100 executive and Certified Life Coach, Shannan Christiansen.

Hello love. So happy to be back with you. I am excited about today’s show, as always, and you’ll want to listen today. This is the one thing that has to happen to lose weight and keep it off.

But as always, I first want to give a listener shout-out. This is just where I read a review of the podcast every single week. This week’s listener shout-out is to 0914Carly. She wrote, “I have been listening to the podcast for a few days now. Listening from the beginning and when there’s a new one. Shannan has so much great information and keeps me wanting to learn more. I’m at the beginning of this new journey and excited to learn more.”

Love it, 0914Carly. I love it so much. I love when ladies just learn about the podcast and then they just binge-listen to all of them. I appreciate all of you ladies who are listening, and I love you ladies.

So we drew for the first gift card in our drawing. So we have been running a contest for ladies who are leaving, rating and reviewing the podcast on Apple or iTunes. And we drew. Actually, Jen, our project manager drew for us and the winner is Lisa Dolan.

Lisa won a $150 Amazon gift card. I’m so excited. I love you Lisa. And I can’t be happier. So you still have time to leave a review. We will draw for another $150 gift card in a future episode. So if you left a review already and sent me an email, no worries. You’re also going to be in that drawing too.

But remember, if you’ve not done it yet, just rate and review the show on iTunes or Apple and then just email me at support@bflycoaching.com with the title of your review and you are in. So congratulations again to Lisa. So excited for you.

Ladies, oh my goodness, it is cold in Arizona. We went from 90s to 60s and 50s and 40s and 30s, I swear overnight. And it has been super cold here. We have the heat on. I am just – I mean, if you ladies have been listening, I do not like the cold. Not even a little tiny bit.

I’m an 80s and 90s girl. I was thinking about it’s getting really cold in Arizona for the winter, we’re going to have to go somewhere else for the winter. I know, we’d have to go to another country. But that’s how much I really do not like the cold.

So I have to say too, I know you ladies, we talk a lot about movement, and I walk every day. And one of the things I notice is that during the winter, I’m starting to see this in my brain. Lizzy is like, oh, it’s so cold outside, you don’t want to go walk.

So I know so many of you are listening are in much colder places than Arizona, and this is just the time too to really decide what are your goals for this winter and how do you want to show up for yourself. For me, I just bought a new pair of gloves on Amazon because my hands get really cold outside.

So I have a hat and I have gloves and I have a really nice walking jacket that’s pretty thick and you know, when Lizzy tells me that it’s too cold, I’m going to be like, it is, but we’re still going. So I think this is the time of the year in the winter when I used to gain weight every winter because it’s colder and it’s holidays. And this is a really great time to actually decide on purpose how you want to show up for yourself during the holidays.

So today loves, we had a team meeting and I have to say, I’ve been excited about this meeting because we are planning out 2021. And my whole team, we were on Zoom, and I am just so excited. We really looked at every single one of our processes in our business from bringing ladies into Transform to onboarding ladies in Transform to their membership experience with Transform.

And thought, how can we improve it and what can we do to help ladies lose weight and get the results and the dreams and goals that they want? And so good. I am so excited about next year and all of the fun things that we have for Transform. I really can’t hardly stand it.

I mean, one, I love my team. They’re amazing. They’re super smart and they love the ladies. And we have these beautiful ladies in Transform and I’m just – I just can’t wait. I feel so blessed to even be a part of it.

So I want to share this story that, actually speaking of the business, has happened to be recently. So I have been in the financial services industry for 27 years. And I’ve always worked for a company. And I’ve done this for a very long time and that’s been my career.

And a few years ago I decided I was going to start coaching and I was going to start this company and we did it a little over two years ago now. And being an entrepreneur has really pushed my growth. And I have to say, starting this business, it’s been all new to me.

And I’ve had some pretty big failures and mess ups. I mean ladies, some pretty big ones. And I just decided that I was just going to continue to push myself, and I’ve been getting coached. I have a coach and I’ve gone to weekly coaching sessions because I believe in coaching and the power of it.

And I believe that our results come from our thoughts. And I had this realization lately that I had not stepped into the CEO role. I’ve been doing all the things, all the actions, but I had not really begun to believe that I was the CEO. I had not stepped into that identity.

I still had thoughts like this is my side hustle, or this is a tiny business. I had all of these different sabotaging thoughts honestly, but BFLY Coaching, it’s a business. We have customers who want our services and who depend on us. And love, I am the CEO.

We have these identities, these are thoughts and beliefs about who we are, and when we want to change to the next version of ourselves, we have to believe new things about who we are. We have to shed the old beliefs and thoughts that keep us in the old versions of ourselves.

This is everything I teach my ladies in Transform. It’s all about the mindset change. Why this is so important is that if you do not step into the identity of who you want to be, you will sabotage your success. You will have thoughts that sabotage your results.

This is why when ladies lose weight, they try some diet, they get all excited, maybe they’ve been on it for six months or a year and they hit their goal weight and they feel amazing, but they never worked on their mindset. They followed a diet plan, they restricted their calories, they cut out a food group, and then when they reach their goal weight, all the old stuff is still there.

They still have thoughts like they are a heavy person. And because they didn’t change their mindset along the way, they slowly start sabotaging. They slowly start gaining the weight back. I know love, I did this many, many, many times.

I think about this in my weight loss journey. I really had to change the identity of becoming a person who was thin. A person who orders a salad, a person who can allow an urge without overeating, a person who loves food that fuels her body. I had to fall in love with movement.

One of my mentors, her name is Dawn and she’s amazing. She practices the thought, “I am the skinny one,” because she is shifting her identity as she loses weight. We all have these identities, these roles, as a heavy person, as an employee, as a mother, as a shy person, as a vibrant person, as too much.

I mean, we have so many of these old thoughts and beliefs that have really shaped who we are. But when we want new results, we have to also shed some pieces of our old identity. The ones that are not serving us any longer. We have to start now practicing who we’re becoming. We have to know who our future self is and learn from her and then start doing those things today.

We have to become our future self now. So that when you lose the weight, you’ve had this mindset change, so you don’t sabotage and gain it back. To lose weight and to lose it for good so that you’re not on this diet roller coaster, you have to start to shift the identity and the pieces of your identity that no longer serve you.

Love, I am a CEO. I am a person who maintains her weight and loves food that fuels her, who loves movement, and who shows up for herself. These are the pieces of my identity that I have to shift to take myself to the next level of who I am becoming.

So the transformational questions today, number one, when you reach your goal weight, what does that version of yourself think and believe? And number two, what identity shift do you need to make to become the next best version of yourself? My love, so good. So good. Alright, bye for now love.

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