Ep #53: What You Feel Right Before You Give Up

You are listening to the Weight Loss for Successful Women podcast with Shannan Christiansen, episode number 53.

Welcome to Weight Loss for Successful Women, a podcast for women who are ready to break the diet cycle and end their struggle with weight for good. Here’s your host, Fortune 100 executive and Certified Life Coach, Shannan Christiansen.

Hello love. So excited to be back with you today. I’m excited about today’s show. We are going to talk about overwhelm. It is the trickiest emotion and I’m going to tell you all about it, and we’re just going to dive into it because overwhelm stalls your weight loss more than you know.

But first, I want to give a listener shout-out, and this is of course where I read a review of the podcast every week. This week’s listener shout-out is to Deb Lowe. She wrote, “Amazing podcast. I have listened to this now multiple times and it inspires me every time. I listen to different pieces when I’m struggling during the day for a little inspirational boost.”

Thank you so much, Deb. I love these reviews. And as you know, if you’ve listened to the podcast before, we wanted to celebrate our 50th episode and so I’m currently doing a drawing. And so when you leave a written review on iTunes, you will be entered into a drawing. I’m going to give away two $150 gift cards to Amazon.

And now, there’s a couple things you have to do. To be entered in, you must leave a written review on iTunes, also known as Apple Podcasts. And then you must email me at shannan@bflycoaching.com with the title of your review. It has to be on an Apple, so if you have an iOS device so an iPhone or a Mac, super simple.

If you don’t, you still can download the iTunes app on your Windows computer and leave a review. So, so exciting. I cannot want to see all the reviews. I have loved all of the reviews that I’ve seen so far. I read each and every one of them. And who knows, maybe one day I’ll read your review on the show. So exciting.

So loves, oh my goodness, if you could see me right now, I am so over the moon about our Transform live virtual event. We have been working on it so much to make sure it is just the best event for our ladies. My whole team has been focused on how can we make this event the most life-changing and luxurious event for our ladies.

I just love my Transform ladies so much and I just get to be a part of their transformations. And so I just always want to overdeliver for them. We’ve even decided to send out their workbooks, and so they’re getting a free workbook so that they have everything they need for this event.

And I am going to teach my tail off. We are going to talk about self-sabotage and holidays. They are two big triggers, right? Ladies, this is why so many of us gain weight. We self-sabotage, and the holidays, oh my goodness. I remember when I carried my weight, the holidays, I just ate from the second week in October all the way through the end of the year.

But my ladies, they are going to learn how to actually lose weight during the holidays, so they are even closer to their goal by the start of 2021. They don’t have to start over anymore. I heard this amazing quote that I just loved and one of my ladies had posted it in one of the mini tribes in Transform.

And it says, “If you’re tired of starting over, stop giving up.” Ladies, if you’re tired of starting over, stop giving up. And this is just honestly one of the big focuses of my virtual event. I want to show the ladies how to make it through the holidays so they don’t give up. There’s no starting over at the beginning of the year.

Oh my loves, I’m so excited I can’t deal with it. I can. Plus, we’re going to just have super fun. We’re going to have so much fun during this event. So it’s not too late, ladies. If you’re not in Transform, I want to invite you to join Transform. You can go to bflycoaching.com/join. And you can learn all about it. So good, my love.

So today, let’s dive into an emotion that really derails the ladies. We all say this, and we say this so much, and it’s super tricky. And the emotion is overwhelm. Think about how often you have felt this way in just the last week. Overwhelm is a feeling and it’s caused by a thought.

So we have a thought like I just have so much weight to lose, or why can’t I eat whatever I want? And then we have this feeling of overwhelm. And then for most of us, when we’re feeling overwhelmed, this is what we do. Nothing. We take no action. We don’t even begin. We don’t even start. Or we quit.

It makes me think of when I first found my teacher. I enrolled in her six-week weight course at the time. This was many, many years ago. Maybe eight or nine. I don’t know. It was a long time ago. It was a six-week course with very detailed plans of what to do. There was a workbook and all.

It was so different than the typical eat this and not that, go on some restrictive diet. It was not a diet. I started in the workbook and listening to the videos, and I started to feel overwhelmed. And then love, slowly, I stopped going to the weekly calls, and then I quit.

This is what overwhelm does. We feel it, we take no action, and then we quit. We do this so often that we don’t even recognize it any longer. And love, I had just quit on myself yet again. Luckily, I knew that I needed something different.

So I ended up going back to my teacher and really doing the work. I see this with some of my new ladies in Transform. They start to get overwhelmed, then they start not showing up. Luckily, inside of my membership, we have tons of support and help, so you know, we pull them back in.

But it’s so easy to go down that rabbit hole. So easy to tell yourself that it’s too hard, too much, I’m too busy. This was such an a-ha for me, and I know for some of my Transform ladies. Overwhelm is just the prelude to us quitting. Ladies, I’m going to say it again so if I’ve lost you, come back. Overwhelm is just the prelude to us quitting.

It’s a really tricky emotion because we tell ourselves that it’s too much, we’re too busy, life is just too much right now. But really, we are saying no to something. And most of the time, it is us. We are not showing up for ourselves, we are telling ourselves a tricky story, so we can let ourselves off the hook.

We get a temporary relief from quitting. I know love, a temporary relief from quitting. It actually feels good for a moment. We made a decision, we quit. But then love, later, we just go into the beatdown of ourselves. We go back to why can’t I lose this weight, why is it so hard? I’m so broken. I just can’t lose the weight.

Losing weight is actually easy. Us getting honest with ourselves and showing up, well love, that is where the hard work comes in. So I want to give you a couple of recommendations. Number one, notice when you’re feeling overwhelmed. Notice the thoughts. Number two, get honest with yourself about overwhelm and that you’re just giving yourself an excuse to quit. And number three, show up.

It is the only guideline I have for my Transform ladies. I even have it on the inside of a wristband they get when they’re in Transform. It says you got this, just show up. So good, my love. So today’s transformational questions are, number one, where is overwhelm showing up for you? How has overwhelm kept you from losing weight? And finally, what does showing up look like for you? So good, my loves. Next week, I am going to dive into why we don’t lose weight. I can’t wait. Bye for now, love.

If you loved listening to this podcast, I would love to have you come check out Transform weight loss program. It is my monthly coaching program where we take this work to a whole new level and ladies learn how to lose weight for good in a way that they can always do. Join me over at bflycoaching.com/join. I’d love to have you join me in Transform weight loss program.

Thank you for listening to this episode of Weight Loss for Successful Women. If you love what you heard today and want to learn more, come over to bflycoaching.com. That’s B – F – L – Y coaching dot com. See you next week!