Ep #54: I’m So Scared I Won’t Follow Through

I’m So Scared I Won’t Follow Through

I recently received an email from a beautiful lady that just touched my heart. She shared with me that she wanted to join Transform and start losing weight, but she was scared she wouldn’t show up for herself. If you’ve ever been on the diet roller coaster, you can most likely relate to this fear, and if so, this episode is for you.

Over the decades that I was trying to lose weight, I had been sold all the things, tried all the methods, and failed so many times that I just didn’t trust myself anymore. I’d broken my commitments to myself over and over, even while I was implementing the work that I’m now teaching you ladies. But I’ve learned a few things that I know will help you.

Join me this week as I share 3 things that I’ve learned since getting off the diet roller coaster and began maintaining my weight loss. It’s so normal to lose all trust in yourself and struggle to keep commitments, but love, you do this for everyone else in your life, so it’s now time to do it for you.

And here are this week’s transformational questions:

  1. What fear do you have about learning to lose weight in a different way?
  2. What one thing can you do for yourself to start showing up for yourself?
  3. Who is your tribe? 

To celebrate 50 episodes, I announced that I would be doing a drawing for two $150 Amazon gift cards. All you have to do to enter is leave a review of the show on iTunes and then email me with the title of your review at shannon@bflycoaching.com. I can’t wait to read all your reviews!

If you love listening to this show, I would love to have you come check out my Transform Weight Loss Program. It’s my monthly coaching program where we take this work to a new level and I help ladies figure out how to lose weight for good. And, we’re having our first live virtual event this October! Click here to check it out, and I can’t wait to see you there!

What You’ll Discover:

  • Why I spent years putting myself on the back burner and gaining weight over the holiday season. 
  • 3 things I’ve learned since getting off the diet roller coaster and maintaining my weight loss. 
  • Why it’s normal if you feel like you can’t trust yourself. 

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Full Episode Transcript:


You are listening to the Weight Loss for Successful Women podcast with Shannan Christiansen, episode number 54.

Welcome to Weight Loss for Successful Women, a podcast for women who are ready to break the diet cycle and end their struggle with weight for good. Here’s your host, Fortune 100 executive and Certified Life Coach, Shannan Christiansen.

Hello love. So happy to be back with you. I am loving spending a little time with you today. I had a beautiful lady write me just a beautiful email. And in it, she was sharing with me her fear that she will not show up for herself. She wanted to join my Transform weight loss program, but she was scared.

So it inspired me to talk about it on this episode. If you’ve ever been scared of not showing up for yourself, then this is a must listen. But as always, I want to give a listener shoutout. This is where I read a review of the podcast every week, and this week’s listener shoutout is to Laura.

She wrote, “I’m enjoying listening to you about your journey and helpful things to try. These tips and lessons have been so helpful. I’m dedicating myself to this journey with these tools you have supplied for me. Thank you so much. Hugs.”

Well Laura, thank you so much. I love these reviews. I love that you ladies are listening. So if you love the show, please rate and review the show. I would so appreciate it. And ladies, I have a contest going on right now. If you rate and review the show on iTunes or Apple, so any iOS device, you will be entered to win $150 gift card.

Yes, $150 gift card. I’m going to give away two of them. All you have to do is rate and review the show on iTunes or Apple. And then email me at support@bflycoaching.com with the title of your review and you are in.

So ladies, we just finished up a five-day challenge and I love the challenges. They are super fun. What I love most is how ladies are learning to show up for themselves, that they matter, that they can lose weight.

We’ve had so many false promises and been on so many diets that weight loss feels hard, and honestly like a nightmare for many of us. But there is a different way, my love. It all starts with simple steps to change your mindset, with a few brain hacks included. You know I love a brain hack.

We have had a full month already, and it’s just the beginning of October. Lots of fun stuff. And we’re planning for our Transform Boss virtual event. I cannot wait. I just can’t. I am so excited about it. It’s October 17th and it’s a members only event.

I’m going to teach my ladies how to stop self-sabotaging their weight loss and how to lose weight during the holidays while still enjoying all their favorite traditions and eating all the things. I for sure am going to have Thanksgiving dinner, Christmas dinner, I’m going to bake cookies with my grandkids. If you have not given up yet on 2020 and you don’t want to start 2021 heavier than you are today, go to bflycoaching.com/join to learn more.

So I had this just beautiful lady email me. She wrote that she just wanted to join Transform, but she was super scared she would not show up for herself and she would join and then she would end up quitting, and she would waste more money.

This email touched me so much because I think anyone who has been on the diet roller coaster has felt like this. I know I did. I had been on the diet roller coaster for decades. I had been sold all the things, tried all the things, and had failed so many times that I just did not trust myself anymore.

I had broken so many commitments to myself over the years. I didn’t even think twice about it. I want to tell you a story of when I was in the midst of what I teach now. I loved my teacher and was implementing everything that I had learned, and I was learning from other teachers, I was feeling pretty good, I was losing some weight, and this was a little bit after my mom had passed.

So I had gained a ton of weight and I was sitting around the 240, 250 mark. And I was finally coming out of the fog, feeling great, and then October rolled around and then I started to slip. I started to go back to old habits. I started with what I did every holiday season. Eat everything.

I would start mid-October, and I didn’t stop until January. I always gained weight during the holiday season. And this year in particular, I also got really sick with bronchitis. I was still pushing down emotions. I was still letting Lizzy and my habit brain take over.

I had this habit of giving up every holiday season, of putting myself on the back burner. I ran myself ragged and was missing my mom. So instead of feeling all the emotions, I was pushing them down by keeping myself so busy and eating sugar cookies. Well, all kinds of cookies.

I had broken commitments to myself yet once again. But I did know there was a different way because remember, I had been learning this already, and I had already lost some weight. So I decided I was going to keep on learning, even though I had failed for a bit.

I had hired a coach and I kept showing up with my teacher. I did not give up. I did not quit on myself. See, I’d been doing this work for a couple of years and again, even though I had gained some weight during the holidays, I knew what to do. I knew how to keep showing up. I knew how to not quit.

It’s hard to believe that that was five years ago and what I’ve learned and now teach is how to keep showing up, how not to quit. I am off the diet roller coaster. I’ve maintained my weight loss. I’ve learned a couple of things that I want to share with you.

And so the first is to keep showing up. This is the only thing I ask of my ladies in Transform. Just keep showing up no matter what it looks like. Consistency plus time equals results. It’s like compound interest.

Even small actions over time will equal results. Even if you go backwards for a bit, you still make progress in the long-term. It’s kind of like if you hold a stock for many years, it may go up and down a bit, but over time, most of them earn money.

And number two, quitting means you have completely given up. Even though I was overeating during that holiday period, I had not completely given up. I was still doing part of my process. Even though it was a difficult time for me, I still did one thing. I still was learning. I still was reaching out.

So loves, even if you’re in this time right now that you feel like you’re struggling, just do one small simple thing. Maybe it’s making your realistic plan, maybe it’s getting more water in, maybe it’s getting more sleep. You will be amazed at how one small simple thing can help you lose weight.

And then number three, find your tribe. I cannot tell you how important this is. Weight loss can be so lonely. To find success, you must find a tribe of women who know what you’re going through, who can help you when you’re struggling, who can pull you back in when you want to give up on yourself.

Loves, it is so normal to not trust yourself if you’ve been on the diet roller coaster for years. We have tried these restrictive diets that are focused on the food. We have broken commitments to ourselves. But love, you know how to keep commitments. You do this for everyone else. You know how to keep a commitment.

You just need to learn how to start keeping them for yourself. And I just want to say it one more time. You know how to keep commitments. You keep them for everyone else. You just need to learn how to start keeping them for yourself.

And I do want to say, the lady who wrote me the email, she did join Transform and she’s doing amazing. Your success is just on the other side of your fears and doubts. I know loves, your success is just on the other side of your fears and doubts. It’s so good.

So today’s transformational questions are number one, what fear do you have about learning to lose weight in a different way? Number two, what one thing can you do for yourself to start showing up for yourself? Number three, who is your tribe? So good my loves. Next week, I want to talk to you about food. Yes, all things food. Alright my loves, bye for now.

If you loved listening to this podcast, I would love to have you come check out Transform weight loss program. It is my monthly coaching program where we take this work to a whole new level and ladies learn how to lose weight for good in a way that they can always do. Join me over at bflycoaching.com/join. I’d love to have you join me in Transform weight loss program.

Thank you for listening to this episode of Weight Loss for Successful Women. If you love what you heard today and want to learn more, come over to bflycoaching.com. That’s B – F – L – Y coaching dot com. See you next week!


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