Would you be your best friend?

I used to feel uncomfortable in my own skin. I would have thoughts around hating my body. I would walk in a room of people and wonder if they were thinking, “boy, she has gained some weight”. I would tug at my clothes and feel like I weighed a couple hundred more pounds than I did. I did not see what I really looked like. When I looked in the mirror, I had feelings of disappointment, failure, and disgust. I would beat myself up around being a failure for being overweight.

I would never talk to anyone the way that I used to talk to myself. I asked myself this question, “Would I be my best friend”, and at that time I would not have been. The way that I talked to myself, the way I broke commitments to myself, and the daily beatings of not being enough or doing enough was not a best friend I wanted.

But I am my best friend. I am the most important person in my life. I am my bestie. Why did I think it was ok to talk to myself like that or continually break commitments to myself? 
Sit with this question, would you be your best friend and if not, why not?

No one, I mean no one ever beat themselves thin. Learning to become your bestie is the absolute best thing you can do for yourself. Learning to be kind to yourself. Learning to talk to yourself with Love. Learning to keep commitments to yourself. I understand that we have been taught to put everyone else first, but it is wrong, it is a lie. You cannot fully take care of others when you don’t take care of yourself.

How do you talk to yourself? Do you keep commitments to yourself? Would you be your best friend?

Friday is the last day to schedule your 30-minute session with me, if you want to work with me 1:1 this is the last chance for a good while.

4.5 years ago, I had a session with my mentor Brooke, it was amazing, but I did not join her program. I waited another 2 years. I think about the progress I could have made if I would have said yes, said yes to me. But I was still putting everything else before me. I know how hard it is to make an investment in yourself. I have grown more, hit more goals, and done things I would have never done in the past 2 years. I have 2 coaches and they help me in ways I could not do for myself.

I believe in coaching and the power it has to change lives. I am proof.