I have carried extra weight on my body for most of my life. It became a part of who I was. I thought it was security. I thought it was safe. I had thoughts that it made me more approachable. I would self-deprecate and use humor to connect with others. I would connect with other women over diets and the failure of diets and exercise plans. I would make sure I had everyone else taken care of. I was a people pleaser. I had created a whole persona on being the “fat” girl with the pretty face.
When I started this journey of never dieting again and figure the “weight” thing out, I had to look at the thoughts that were driving who I thought I was. Were they even true?
I had to decide that I was going to change my mind and thoughts around who I was. I wasn’t the girl who commiserated over failed diets and who would binge with a friend. I was not going to self-deprecate any more. I was not going to use humor to hide my pain. I was going to be the person who ordered a salad when everyone else was ordering pasta. I was going to say “no” to the free doughnut at work because doughnuts do not feel good in my body. I was going to make decisions for me, I was going to put myself first. I was going to ensure that I was taken care of. This was a serious “mind change”.
To lose weight, stop diet mentality, and begin to love my body, I had to lose the old thoughts and the old persona I had created. I had to challenge old beliefs. I had this printed on the journals I send to my clients who are in my program. Because you don’t need a “lifestyle change” you have to make a “mind change”.
We say we want to change.
We don’t because we are afraid of losing our old self.
But you can’t have one without the other.
You have to feel the loss of the old you to become the future you.
Love, click below to get 3 tools to start to make a “mind” change. There is a workbook to start you out and a video. Then sign up for 30 minutes with me. In the 30 minutes I will take you through the “before” and “after” process, give you all the details on my program, and leave you with some tools so you can begin the “mind change”.
My 8-week program is so good. I wish I had it 20 years ago. I just added 2 spots because I just love helping women so much, I love seeing the transformation. I also added a 1-day workshop in October in a cool location with me.
bflycoaching.com/free-course
I have carried extra weight on my body for most of my life. It became a part of who I was. I thought it was security. I thought it was safe. I had thoughts that it made me more approachable. I would self-deprecate and use humor to connect with others. I would connect with other women over diets and the failure of diets and exercise plans. I would make sure I had everyone else taken care of. I was a people pleaser. I had created a whole persona on being the “fat” girl with the pretty face.
When I started this journey of never dieting again and figure the “weight” thing out, I had to look at the thoughts that were driving who I thought I was. Were they even true?
I had to decide that I was going to change my mind and thoughts around who I was. I wasn’t the girl who commiserated over failed diets and who would binge with a friend. I was not going to self-deprecate any more. I was not going to use humor to hide my pain. I was going to be the person who ordered a salad when everyone else was ordering pasta. I was going to say “no” to the free doughnut at work because doughnuts do not feel good in my body. I was going to make decisions for me, I was going to put myself first. I was going to ensure that I was taken care of. This was a serious “mind change”.
To lose weight, stop diet mentality, and begin to love my body, I had to lose the old thoughts and the old persona I had created. I had to challenge old beliefs. I had this printed on the journals I send to my clients who are in my program. Because you don’t need a “lifestyle change” you have to make a “mind change”.
We say we want to change.
We don’t because we are afraid of losing our old self.
But you can’t have one without the other.
You have to feel the loss of the old you to become the future you.
Love, click below to get 3 tools to start to make a “mind” change. There is a workbook to start you out and a video. Then sign up for 30 minutes with me. In the 30 minutes I will take you through the “before” and “after” process, give you all the details on my program, and leave you with some tools so you can begin the “mind change”.

My 8-week program is so good. I wish I had it 20 years ago. I just added 2 spots because I just love helping women so much, I love seeing the transformation. I also added a 1-day workshop in October in a cool location with me.
bflycoaching.com/free-course